Subject: Secret To Make Your Ex Return Your Call Hi,
Are there 'magic' words you can use to get your ex to return your phone calls? Sounds hard to believe but there ARE words that will nearly cast a spell and make your ex feel almost compelled to return your call. Cool huh?... I am going to share this with you because this is one of the biggest questions I get from the over 35,000 subscribers just like you that are trying to put their relationship back together. So I am going to answer..."How do I get my ex to return my phone call, text or IM?" BUT...
*********** WARNING! ***********
In the Magic Of Making Up, I lay out a complete strategy. If you use this technique alone, without an 'overall' plan or strategy...you may damage your relationship more than if they never returned your call.
**************** What NOT to Say! ****************
Before we get into the actual words, let's go over what message almost NEVER works. and worse... Puts you in an AWFUL 'psychological' position. These usually fall into 2 categories. The PLEAD- Where the message sounds like "John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you." And the EMERGENCY- "Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this." Now, I think you can see what is wrong with both of those approaches? So, I won't go on and on...
************************************ How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest To Your Advantage ***********************************
Two of the most powerful forces in the human mind are *Curiosity & *Self Interest And here's the BIG SECRET! When you combine the two, you have a recipe that WILL work 'magic' So... Let's look at what you can say that works nearly EVERY TIME. In a friendly tone: "Hi John. It's Cindy. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person." Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity and self interest? John will NOT be able to resist! "What did I do?" "What does she appreciate?" he will be thinking. And he feels good because it is a positive message. Now... Before you call you need to do the "Set Up"...which is figuring out what he/she did that you appreciate. It can be any small thing...but needs to be plausible. But more importantly...
************ 2nd WARNING! ************
Please have an underlying strategy like I lay out in the Magic Of Making Up System BEFORE you call. <<http://juana22.makingup.hop.clickbank.net>> If you apply this technique with no underlying strategy and they call you back you can do more DAMAGE than good if you do not handle it correctly. Okay? What I am saying is... What you do before, during and after you get them to return your call is MORE important than getting them to return your call. Make sense? Have a PLAN!Click Here!<http://juana22.makingup.hop.clickbank.net>
Rooting For You, T Dub
Are there 'magic' words you can use to get your ex to return your phone calls? Sounds hard to believe but there ARE words that will nearly cast a spell and make your ex feel almost compelled to return your call. Cool huh?... I am going to share this with you because this is one of the biggest questions I get from the over 35,000 subscribers just like you that are trying to put their relationship back together. So I am going to answer..."How do I get my ex to return my phone call, text or IM?" BUT...
*********** WARNING! ***********
In the Magic Of Making Up, I lay out a complete strategy. If you use this technique alone, without an 'overall' plan or strategy...you may damage your relationship more than if they never returned your call.
**************** What NOT to Say! ****************
Before we get into the actual words, let's go over what message almost NEVER works. and worse... Puts you in an AWFUL 'psychological' position. These usually fall into 2 categories. The PLEAD- Where the message sounds like "John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you." And the EMERGENCY- "Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this." Now, I think you can see what is wrong with both of those approaches? So, I won't go on and on...
************************************ How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest To Your Advantage ***********************************
Two of the most powerful forces in the human mind are *Curiosity & *Self Interest And here's the BIG SECRET! When you combine the two, you have a recipe that WILL work 'magic' So... Let's look at what you can say that works nearly EVERY TIME. In a friendly tone: "Hi John. It's Cindy. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person." Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity and self interest? John will NOT be able to resist! "What did I do?" "What does she appreciate?" he will be thinking. And he feels good because it is a positive message. Now... Before you call you need to do the "Set Up"...which is figuring out what he/she did that you appreciate. It can be any small thing...but needs to be plausible. But more importantly...
************ 2nd WARNING! ************
Please have an underlying strategy like I lay out in the Magic Of Making Up System BEFORE you call. <<http://juana22.makingup.hop.clickbank.net>> If you apply this technique with no underlying strategy and they call you back you can do more DAMAGE than good if you do not handle it correctly. Okay? What I am saying is... What you do before, during and after you get them to return your call is MORE important than getting them to return your call. Make sense? Have a PLAN!Click Here!<http://juana22.makingup.hop.clickbank.net>
Rooting For You, T Dub
Zip Zam Zoom Magical Words to Win Him Back
Getting your boyfriend back isn't always a walk in the park. You may have been trying for some time, without success, to make it happen. That's probably what led you here. You're looking for a quick and easy, perhaps even magical, solution to get him back for good this time around. What is Magic? For some people magic is something mystical and wonderful that cannot be understood, much less explained. For other people, magic is simply a trick of the eye or some sort of sleight of hand that always has a solution. Whether your definition of magic includes something enchanting and wonderful or a mystery to solve, getting your boyfriend back doesn't involve supernatural maneuverings. BUT A few magic words certainly want help. Zip This is the little pop of fun, pep, and life that is necessary in all lasting relationships. What kind of zip has your relationship had lately? Were things going along swell and suddenly the bottom fell out? OR Have things been slowly switching from sizzle to fizzle in recent months? When was the last time you went on a romantic date together? How long has it been since you weren't able to keep your hands off each other? But how do you put the zip back in after the fact? You add the zip into your own life. Spruce up your image a bit. Add a little sparkle to your appearance, add a little boost to your confidence, and become the vibrant, active girl you were when you first met. If the two of you move in remotely similar social circles he will hear about the new you and it will drive him insane with curiosity. Zam Get into the best shape of your life. Whether it's losing weight or adding a little tone, now is the time to get into shape and really take care of yourself. Make sure you're eating nutritious meals and drinking plenty of water to stay hydrated. These things are important because the one thing you want, more than anything else, if you cross paths with your ex boyfriend is to come across as happy and healthy. He expects you to do a little bit of pining and it's going to really make him curious about what's going on in your life if you're going around looking better than ever. Zoom Keep going and don't stop to grieve over him. Commit yourself to living your best life without him in it. It's not moving on. Its not letting go of the idea of getting him back. It's even better. It's showing him that you don't NEED him all the while he's figuring out that he might actually need you. Relationships aren't easy, but neither is breaking up. Give him the chance to see that you're making it on your own, without him, and he's very likely to make the first move so you will have no trouble convincing him that the idea to get back together was all his. THAT is the truly magical aspect of getting your boyfriend back convincing him that hes the one who wanted to make it happen.
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Getting your boyfriend back isn't always a walk in the park. You may have been trying for some time, without success, to make it happen. That's probably what led you here. You're looking for a quick and easy, perhaps even magical, solution to get him back for good this time around. What is Magic? For some people magic is something mystical and wonderful that cannot be understood, much less explained. For other people, magic is simply a trick of the eye or some sort of sleight of hand that always has a solution. Whether your definition of magic includes something enchanting and wonderful or a mystery to solve, getting your boyfriend back doesn't involve supernatural maneuverings. BUT A few magic words certainly want help. Zip This is the little pop of fun, pep, and life that is necessary in all lasting relationships. What kind of zip has your relationship had lately? Were things going along swell and suddenly the bottom fell out? OR Have things been slowly switching from sizzle to fizzle in recent months? When was the last time you went on a romantic date together? How long has it been since you weren't able to keep your hands off each other? But how do you put the zip back in after the fact? You add the zip into your own life. Spruce up your image a bit. Add a little sparkle to your appearance, add a little boost to your confidence, and become the vibrant, active girl you were when you first met. If the two of you move in remotely similar social circles he will hear about the new you and it will drive him insane with curiosity. Zam Get into the best shape of your life. Whether it's losing weight or adding a little tone, now is the time to get into shape and really take care of yourself. Make sure you're eating nutritious meals and drinking plenty of water to stay hydrated. These things are important because the one thing you want, more than anything else, if you cross paths with your ex boyfriend is to come across as happy and healthy. He expects you to do a little bit of pining and it's going to really make him curious about what's going on in your life if you're going around looking better than ever. Zoom Keep going and don't stop to grieve over him. Commit yourself to living your best life without him in it. It's not moving on. Its not letting go of the idea of getting him back. It's even better. It's showing him that you don't NEED him all the while he's figuring out that he might actually need you. Relationships aren't easy, but neither is breaking up. Give him the chance to see that you're making it on your own, without him, and he's very likely to make the first move so you will have no trouble convincing him that the idea to get back together was all his. THAT is the truly magical aspect of getting your boyfriend back convincing him that hes the one who wanted to make it happen.
*We got 'em! Powerful secrets, tips, tools, and techniques for turning small businesses into BIG paychecks."
Stop Listening to Your Girlfriends – Here’s What You Need to do to Get Him Back
You love ‘em dearly. You know your girlfriends have your back. But, when it comes to tactics to get your ex back, they just may be steering you in the wrong direction. They could, well meaning as they may be, even be hurting your chances of success. Getting dumped by the boy you still love is one of the most difficult things a girl can go through. When it’s all said and done, you have one though on your mind – getting him back. Your girlfriends have been there to hear you out. They've given you shoulders to cry on. They've even shared their super secret chocolate stashes with you to help you get through this crisis in your life. Now, they're offering you the best advice they have to give on how to get him back. Unfortunately, their advice is based on the rules girls play by and they aren't going to be all that effective at getting him back. If you really want to win him back, you're going to have to play the game by his rules – to some degree. Playing a Girl’s Game with the Boy’s Rule Book
1) Never let him see you coming. Your number one priority right now is to get him back. That means you have to dedicate yourself to the task. But, you have to do it in a way that doesn't look like you're trying to get him back. Don't show your hands because he'll constantly be watching and waiting for you to make your move.
2) Show the world you've moved on. This includes your girlfriends. Smile. Go out and join the crowd. Fake it until you have everyone convinced that you truly have moved on.
3) Let him know you've got game. All the time that you're trying to show everyone you've moved on, you need to invest in making yourself over from the inside out. Become the stronger, more independent woman you've always wanted to be. Get a makeover. Change your hairstyle Learn to walk in those six-inch heels guys love so much. Become confident in your own skin.
Once you've accomplished all this – then you let him see you coming and watch the fireworks as he takes in the new you. Why is this so Effective? In relationships, you often begin to take each other for granted. The more you learn about each other, the fewer mysteries there are to uncover. You’re presenting him with a whole new you and many more mysteries to unlock. It’s a curious mystery he’s powerless to resist – especially if there ever were genuine feelings on his part. And your girlfriends? They love you regardless of whether you take their advice or not.
You love ‘em dearly. You know your girlfriends have your back. But, when it comes to tactics to get your ex back, they just may be steering you in the wrong direction. They could, well meaning as they may be, even be hurting your chances of success. Getting dumped by the boy you still love is one of the most difficult things a girl can go through. When it’s all said and done, you have one though on your mind – getting him back. Your girlfriends have been there to hear you out. They've given you shoulders to cry on. They've even shared their super secret chocolate stashes with you to help you get through this crisis in your life. Now, they're offering you the best advice they have to give on how to get him back. Unfortunately, their advice is based on the rules girls play by and they aren't going to be all that effective at getting him back. If you really want to win him back, you're going to have to play the game by his rules – to some degree. Playing a Girl’s Game with the Boy’s Rule Book
1) Never let him see you coming. Your number one priority right now is to get him back. That means you have to dedicate yourself to the task. But, you have to do it in a way that doesn't look like you're trying to get him back. Don't show your hands because he'll constantly be watching and waiting for you to make your move.
2) Show the world you've moved on. This includes your girlfriends. Smile. Go out and join the crowd. Fake it until you have everyone convinced that you truly have moved on.
3) Let him know you've got game. All the time that you're trying to show everyone you've moved on, you need to invest in making yourself over from the inside out. Become the stronger, more independent woman you've always wanted to be. Get a makeover. Change your hairstyle Learn to walk in those six-inch heels guys love so much. Become confident in your own skin.
Once you've accomplished all this – then you let him see you coming and watch the fireworks as he takes in the new you. Why is this so Effective? In relationships, you often begin to take each other for granted. The more you learn about each other, the fewer mysteries there are to uncover. You’re presenting him with a whole new you and many more mysteries to unlock. It’s a curious mystery he’s powerless to resist – especially if there ever were genuine feelings on his part. And your girlfriends? They love you regardless of whether you take their advice or not.
The Lazy Man's Guide to Getting Your Girlfriend Back
Breaking up is especially difficult when it wasn't your plan. Men handle unexpected breakups in different ways. Some men go all in to get their girlfriends back. They jump through crazy hoops, make deals, bargain, beg, and come close to stalking in an effort to get her back. Other men decide that maybe this is just how things were meant to be and seek greener pastures elsewhere - at least, that's what they do in time. It often takes at least a little while to mend their broken hearts and feel willing to put them back on the market again. But there are still others who want to ride off into the sunset with the girl that got away, but have no idea how to make that happen. More importantly, they want to get her back but they don't want to have to jump through hoops to do it.
Fortunately, hoop jumping really isn't necessary to get her back. You don't even have to do the chasing. You'll probably be surprised to learn just how easy it can be to get her to come back to you. Don't Call Her Sounds simple enough, doesn't it? After all, it requires no action on your part. What it does require, though, is dedicated inaction. That's not so simple when every instinct you have is telling you to go after her. It's the primal male drive to conquer all threats to life, limb, and overall happiness. You want to make her see the light. You want to show her how good it really is between you. You want things to be the way they were.
Chasing the girl down might make her swoon in the movies. In real life it nets you a restraining order. Give her a little time to work through her own emotions and take a little time to really think about whether things really were all that good (for both of you) the way they were. Make Small Changes at Home You don't have to become a completely new man. That's way too much work. But you might make a few small changes in appearance - yes girls really do notice these things. Consider something simple to start with like teeth whitening to brighten your smile. While you might not be interested in a full blown gym membership, you might want to consider lifting weights at home (within reason) or playing racquet ball or even pick-up basketball games for a little firming and toning - maybe even skip that second beer at night or cut back from the pizza. Small changes don't require a lot of effort and can deliver really big results. Wait for Her to Come to You Believe it or not, the world is small. Once people start noticing the little changes you're making, and believe me they will, word will get back to her. Women are curious creatures. Not only in the sense that men have a hard time understanding them, but because they like to know what's going on. It will drive her insane with curiosity that you're doing so well without her. She'll want to know why you're looking better, getting together with other people, and making changes for the better in your life - even little changes get big attention in today's world. She will call or "bump" into you just to see what's different. She'll be desperate to know what's going on. That's when it's really time to work your magic. All you need now is the right thing to say to convince her she was wrong to walk away.
Breaking up is especially difficult when it wasn't your plan. Men handle unexpected breakups in different ways. Some men go all in to get their girlfriends back. They jump through crazy hoops, make deals, bargain, beg, and come close to stalking in an effort to get her back. Other men decide that maybe this is just how things were meant to be and seek greener pastures elsewhere - at least, that's what they do in time. It often takes at least a little while to mend their broken hearts and feel willing to put them back on the market again. But there are still others who want to ride off into the sunset with the girl that got away, but have no idea how to make that happen. More importantly, they want to get her back but they don't want to have to jump through hoops to do it.
Fortunately, hoop jumping really isn't necessary to get her back. You don't even have to do the chasing. You'll probably be surprised to learn just how easy it can be to get her to come back to you. Don't Call Her Sounds simple enough, doesn't it? After all, it requires no action on your part. What it does require, though, is dedicated inaction. That's not so simple when every instinct you have is telling you to go after her. It's the primal male drive to conquer all threats to life, limb, and overall happiness. You want to make her see the light. You want to show her how good it really is between you. You want things to be the way they were.
Chasing the girl down might make her swoon in the movies. In real life it nets you a restraining order. Give her a little time to work through her own emotions and take a little time to really think about whether things really were all that good (for both of you) the way they were. Make Small Changes at Home You don't have to become a completely new man. That's way too much work. But you might make a few small changes in appearance - yes girls really do notice these things. Consider something simple to start with like teeth whitening to brighten your smile. While you might not be interested in a full blown gym membership, you might want to consider lifting weights at home (within reason) or playing racquet ball or even pick-up basketball games for a little firming and toning - maybe even skip that second beer at night or cut back from the pizza. Small changes don't require a lot of effort and can deliver really big results. Wait for Her to Come to You Believe it or not, the world is small. Once people start noticing the little changes you're making, and believe me they will, word will get back to her. Women are curious creatures. Not only in the sense that men have a hard time understanding them, but because they like to know what's going on. It will drive her insane with curiosity that you're doing so well without her. She'll want to know why you're looking better, getting together with other people, and making changes for the better in your life - even little changes get big attention in today's world. She will call or "bump" into you just to see what's different. She'll be desperate to know what's going on. That's when it's really time to work your magic. All you need now is the right thing to say to convince her she was wrong to walk away.
Moving Mountains isn't Necessary - It Only Takes One Trick to Win Her Back
Getting your girlfriend back may seem like the most difficult task on the planet. It doesn't have to be though. Many guys make it much more difficult than is necessary. You see, you've been led to believe, mostly in Hollywood movies and by the makers of fine jewelry, chocolate, and greeting cards, that this is the way it's supposed to be. That isn't the case at all. In fact, once the girl leaves, the average relationship may seem irrevocably broken, but there are still easy tips you can follow that really will help you get her back. Here are a few things you should remember if you really want to win her back. Stop Living in the Past Turn of the century American Author, Alice Morse Earle, once wrote: "Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That's why it is called the present." Living in relationship past robs you both of all the joy of each day together when you're in the relationship. Now that she has left, however, it can rob you of a clear perspective on what needs to be done now in order to save the relationship and make it work this time around. Become the Man You WANT to Be This is hard for many men. It's something you may not have given a lot of thought to. Bruce Willis starred in a great movie called The Kid, where the grown up man is confronted by his eight year old self. The eight year old was horrified at the man he'd become saying, "So, I'm forty, I'm not married, I don't fly jets, and I don't have a dog? I grow up to be a loser." Sometimes there is wisdom in those childhood echoes. You may have given up on the idea of flying jets (who really ever gives that one up though?), but that doesn't mean you can't take steps to be the man you want to be -- even if that does involve learning to fly a jet. The first step is deciding who you want to be. Then you must tackle the process of becoming that man. How does that Help You Get the Girl? Life doesn't always follow a movie script. You might have to wait a little while to really get her attention. But, once you start making real, notable changes in the man you are and stop trying to recapture a past that wasn't as picture perfect as you remember, you'll be able to gain a new outlook on the future. One thing is certain. Once you become the man you WANT to be, the here and now, the PRESENT, is something she'll WANT to be part of.
Getting your girlfriend back may seem like the most difficult task on the planet. It doesn't have to be though. Many guys make it much more difficult than is necessary. You see, you've been led to believe, mostly in Hollywood movies and by the makers of fine jewelry, chocolate, and greeting cards, that this is the way it's supposed to be. That isn't the case at all. In fact, once the girl leaves, the average relationship may seem irrevocably broken, but there are still easy tips you can follow that really will help you get her back. Here are a few things you should remember if you really want to win her back. Stop Living in the Past Turn of the century American Author, Alice Morse Earle, once wrote: "Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That's why it is called the present." Living in relationship past robs you both of all the joy of each day together when you're in the relationship. Now that she has left, however, it can rob you of a clear perspective on what needs to be done now in order to save the relationship and make it work this time around. Become the Man You WANT to Be This is hard for many men. It's something you may not have given a lot of thought to. Bruce Willis starred in a great movie called The Kid, where the grown up man is confronted by his eight year old self. The eight year old was horrified at the man he'd become saying, "So, I'm forty, I'm not married, I don't fly jets, and I don't have a dog? I grow up to be a loser." Sometimes there is wisdom in those childhood echoes. You may have given up on the idea of flying jets (who really ever gives that one up though?), but that doesn't mean you can't take steps to be the man you want to be -- even if that does involve learning to fly a jet. The first step is deciding who you want to be. Then you must tackle the process of becoming that man. How does that Help You Get the Girl? Life doesn't always follow a movie script. You might have to wait a little while to really get her attention. But, once you start making real, notable changes in the man you are and stop trying to recapture a past that wasn't as picture perfect as you remember, you'll be able to gain a new outlook on the future. One thing is certain. Once you become the man you WANT to be, the here and now, the PRESENT, is something she'll WANT to be part of.
Why Apologizing is the Wrong Answer if You Really Want to Get Her Back
Most guys think the perfect answer, after a breakup, is to apologize to the girl who got away. Some of them have a hard time understanding why this doesn't work - or in some cases makes her even angrier than she was initially. Apologizing is almost always the wrong answer. Here are just a few of the reasons why. Apologizing is a Sign of Weakness Fans of the hit television show on CBS have heard this a time or two throughout its many seasons on the air. It's one of Gibbs' favorite sayings. But, it is a sign of being on the weak end of the argument. You never want to broach an argument from a weaker position. Apologies Come Across as Insincere Chances are good that you've apologized in the past. Perhaps, you've even apologized for the very things she says are the problems in your relationship. Apologies, without action, do not bring about a sufficient result to make her happy. While you don't have to change everything about who you are, sometimes, you're going to have to make some adjustments to your nature in order to keep her happy and make her FEEL loved by you. Apologies aren't Specific Enough Apologizing for "whatever you did to make her leave" isn't going to cut it. She needs to hear the specific reason why you're apologizing. She wants you to acknowledge that you've hurt, neglected, ignored, cheated, or whatever it is that you've done. She wants to know that you understand it's wrong. Problem is, she doesn't always tell you what you did. Which leads to the next reason it's a bad idea to apologize when your girlfriend leaves. It's Too Easy to Apologize for the Wrong Thing The last thing you want to do is add fuel to the fire by apologizing for something you think she found out about, while failing to apologize to the thing that's really set her off. Talk about digging in deeper! The bottom line, when it comes to apologies, is that there are many more ways to get it wrong than there are to get it right. If you feel you must apologize, it's best to do it in writing and follow these simple rules. 1) Be specific. 2) Make your apology brief. 3) Keep it simple. Putting it in writing prevents a fight, gives her time to think it over, and provides a neutral setting where she can process the apology and what it may mean for your collective futures. Apologies, for the most part, have a negative impact on the future of the relationship. Instead of a apologizing, look for positive aspects of the relationship and attempt to capitalize on how good you were together rather than revisiting mistakes that were made along the way.
Most guys think the perfect answer, after a breakup, is to apologize to the girl who got away. Some of them have a hard time understanding why this doesn't work - or in some cases makes her even angrier than she was initially. Apologizing is almost always the wrong answer. Here are just a few of the reasons why. Apologizing is a Sign of Weakness Fans of the hit television show on CBS have heard this a time or two throughout its many seasons on the air. It's one of Gibbs' favorite sayings. But, it is a sign of being on the weak end of the argument. You never want to broach an argument from a weaker position. Apologies Come Across as Insincere Chances are good that you've apologized in the past. Perhaps, you've even apologized for the very things she says are the problems in your relationship. Apologies, without action, do not bring about a sufficient result to make her happy. While you don't have to change everything about who you are, sometimes, you're going to have to make some adjustments to your nature in order to keep her happy and make her FEEL loved by you. Apologies aren't Specific Enough Apologizing for "whatever you did to make her leave" isn't going to cut it. She needs to hear the specific reason why you're apologizing. She wants you to acknowledge that you've hurt, neglected, ignored, cheated, or whatever it is that you've done. She wants to know that you understand it's wrong. Problem is, she doesn't always tell you what you did. Which leads to the next reason it's a bad idea to apologize when your girlfriend leaves. It's Too Easy to Apologize for the Wrong Thing The last thing you want to do is add fuel to the fire by apologizing for something you think she found out about, while failing to apologize to the thing that's really set her off. Talk about digging in deeper! The bottom line, when it comes to apologies, is that there are many more ways to get it wrong than there are to get it right. If you feel you must apologize, it's best to do it in writing and follow these simple rules. 1) Be specific. 2) Make your apology brief. 3) Keep it simple. Putting it in writing prevents a fight, gives her time to think it over, and provides a neutral setting where she can process the apology and what it may mean for your collective futures. Apologies, for the most part, have a negative impact on the future of the relationship. Instead of a apologizing, look for positive aspects of the relationship and attempt to capitalize on how good you were together rather than revisiting mistakes that were made along the way.
Making up in Movies - Why Doesn't it Really Work That Way?
You've seen it happen in the movies dozens, if not hundreds of time. Boy meets girl. Girl falls in love with boy. Boy breaks girl's heart (mean boy!). Girl breaks up with boy. Boy makes heroic effort with giant 1980's boom boxes, saying "hello," flying a jet, and countless other antics to win her heart back. The problem is, one person is writing the script for both of them in the movies. They're playing pre-defined roles and following cues. Real life doesn't quite work that way. Lack of Originality Unfortunately, a lot of guys haven't gotten the memo. You're still trying to use moves that have been used before. Sadly, these are moves the girls you're trying to get back together with already know about too. Your ex doesn't want you to copy something that's been done before. If you're going to make a move to get her back, it had better, at the very least, be original. It needs to be something she hasn't seen before. It also needs to be something that you would do. It needs to appear sincere. Using movie lines as your guide makes her feel as though she isn't important enough to you for something original. Not Appropriate for Your Situation Every relationship is different. Every breakup is somewhat unique. You can be having the same arguments as 10,000 other couples around the world, but there are things about the two of you and your situation that make those same arguments and situations unique. No matter what the reason for the breakup was, your situation is different than Harry and Sally's (When Harry Met Sally), Joe and Kathleen's (You've Got Mail), Maverick and Charlie's (Top Gun), and Pat and Tiffany's (Silver Linings Playbook). You need to take the time and make the effort to come up with something unique and specific to your romantic situation. More importantly, it needs to be something that will matter to her and melt her heart. Alternative Endings Worth Considering That is, of course, if you're going for movie magic effects. However, you could do something else altogether. Something she may even find curious and shocking. You could let her go -- at least for a little while. Instead of going after the girl, give her a little time to think things through. Absence really does make the heart grow fonder. Then, after a little time has passed, chances are you won't need to call her. She'll call you. When that happens, you can both enjoy a happy ending that's much better than anything Hollywood could come up with because it's the story that belongs to the two of you and no one else.
You've seen it happen in the movies dozens, if not hundreds of time. Boy meets girl. Girl falls in love with boy. Boy breaks girl's heart (mean boy!). Girl breaks up with boy. Boy makes heroic effort with giant 1980's boom boxes, saying "hello," flying a jet, and countless other antics to win her heart back. The problem is, one person is writing the script for both of them in the movies. They're playing pre-defined roles and following cues. Real life doesn't quite work that way. Lack of Originality Unfortunately, a lot of guys haven't gotten the memo. You're still trying to use moves that have been used before. Sadly, these are moves the girls you're trying to get back together with already know about too. Your ex doesn't want you to copy something that's been done before. If you're going to make a move to get her back, it had better, at the very least, be original. It needs to be something she hasn't seen before. It also needs to be something that you would do. It needs to appear sincere. Using movie lines as your guide makes her feel as though she isn't important enough to you for something original. Not Appropriate for Your Situation Every relationship is different. Every breakup is somewhat unique. You can be having the same arguments as 10,000 other couples around the world, but there are things about the two of you and your situation that make those same arguments and situations unique. No matter what the reason for the breakup was, your situation is different than Harry and Sally's (When Harry Met Sally), Joe and Kathleen's (You've Got Mail), Maverick and Charlie's (Top Gun), and Pat and Tiffany's (Silver Linings Playbook). You need to take the time and make the effort to come up with something unique and specific to your romantic situation. More importantly, it needs to be something that will matter to her and melt her heart. Alternative Endings Worth Considering That is, of course, if you're going for movie magic effects. However, you could do something else altogether. Something she may even find curious and shocking. You could let her go -- at least for a little while. Instead of going after the girl, give her a little time to think things through. Absence really does make the heart grow fonder. Then, after a little time has passed, chances are you won't need to call her. She'll call you. When that happens, you can both enjoy a happy ending that's much better than anything Hollywood could come up with because it's the story that belongs to the two of you and no one else.
How to Deal with Seeing Your Ex Unexpectedly
You got the wind knocked out of your sails with the breakup. You had a few rough days, weeks, maybe even months. But, you finally started getting back out there in the real world. You're hitting the town with your friends. You're working out at the gym. And you're trying like mad to at least look like you're getting on with your life - no matter how much you want her back. You're doing good. You're looking good. Girls are starting to smile and flirt with you. You're Superman. Then BAM! Out of the blue, she walks into the room and it feels like you've been hit in the gut with a kryptonite fist. Your mouth gets dry. Your palms get sweaty. Your tongue suddenly feels like it weighs a thousand pounds and you're caught between a sudden overwhelming urge to flee and a simultaneous but equally powerful urge to beg her to take you back. What do you do? You say something about how it's great to see her and make a hasty retreat. It's only after you're out of her presence that you begin to think of all the things you could have, should have, or would have said if you'd been able to think clearly at the time. Then you engage in a fantasy replay of how things would have shaken out if you'd just been able to speak. But, wouldn't it be nice if you could think of these things ahead of time and have a good idea of what to say to her when the moment arrives? Believe me it would! Especially if you're interested in getting her back. Stop getting sucker punched by her presence. Take back the power and let her see you in a new light. You can control the conversation and how it plays out as long as you plan ahead for when that moment comes. I'm not talking about arranging an "accidental" meeting. That's not the right idea in this situation. But, you do want to have a plan for what you'll say to her when your paths do cross so that you don't look like you're either avoiding her, running away from her, or angry with her for the breakup. Time heals a lot of old wounds. You might be surprised to discover that she's probably just as nervous about the encounter as you are - even though she's the one who broke up with you.
So what should you say?
1) Keep it short.
2) Keep it light.
3) Avoid bringing up the past - leave that to her. Keep these things in mind. Write a script for yourself. Memorize the script. Practice it in the mirror. Do whatever you have to do so that it's second nature and the next time your paths cross you'll be ready.
You got the wind knocked out of your sails with the breakup. You had a few rough days, weeks, maybe even months. But, you finally started getting back out there in the real world. You're hitting the town with your friends. You're working out at the gym. And you're trying like mad to at least look like you're getting on with your life - no matter how much you want her back. You're doing good. You're looking good. Girls are starting to smile and flirt with you. You're Superman. Then BAM! Out of the blue, she walks into the room and it feels like you've been hit in the gut with a kryptonite fist. Your mouth gets dry. Your palms get sweaty. Your tongue suddenly feels like it weighs a thousand pounds and you're caught between a sudden overwhelming urge to flee and a simultaneous but equally powerful urge to beg her to take you back. What do you do? You say something about how it's great to see her and make a hasty retreat. It's only after you're out of her presence that you begin to think of all the things you could have, should have, or would have said if you'd been able to think clearly at the time. Then you engage in a fantasy replay of how things would have shaken out if you'd just been able to speak. But, wouldn't it be nice if you could think of these things ahead of time and have a good idea of what to say to her when the moment arrives? Believe me it would! Especially if you're interested in getting her back. Stop getting sucker punched by her presence. Take back the power and let her see you in a new light. You can control the conversation and how it plays out as long as you plan ahead for when that moment comes. I'm not talking about arranging an "accidental" meeting. That's not the right idea in this situation. But, you do want to have a plan for what you'll say to her when your paths do cross so that you don't look like you're either avoiding her, running away from her, or angry with her for the breakup. Time heals a lot of old wounds. You might be surprised to discover that she's probably just as nervous about the encounter as you are - even though she's the one who broke up with you.
So what should you say?
1) Keep it short.
2) Keep it light.
3) Avoid bringing up the past - leave that to her. Keep these things in mind. Write a script for yourself. Memorize the script. Practice it in the mirror. Do whatever you have to do so that it's second nature and the next time your paths cross you'll be ready.
How to Make Up Fast Before You Break Up
Breaking up is hard on everyone involved. If you're interested in hanging on to your relationship, then the best solution is to prevent the breakup in the first place. Preventative action can save you both the heartache of a breakup and the lengthy recovery and reconciliation process. More importantly, it can help prevent many damaging words and actions before they ever happen. But, how do you stop something that seems almost inevitable? Communicate More Effectively Guys and girls have this Mars and Venus issue when it comes to communication. John Gray, Pd.D. even wrote a book about it back during the early 1990's. The book was on the bestseller lists for an unprecedented 121 weeks because the concept was so simple, and yet, so foreign. Sometimes, the best solutions really are the simplest. The problem, according to this book, is that men and women communicate differently. What one person is saying (or intends to say) is not always what the other person in the relationship hears. This miscommunication often causes the perception of problems or issues in the relationship that only exists in the minds of the two people in the relationship. That's why learning to communicate effectively is so important for the sake of your sanity and your relationship. Discover Your Love Languages Everyone has a love language that best sums up the way the express love and the way they best FEEL loved.
The love languages include:
1) Words of affirmation
2) Physical touch
3) Quality time
4) Gifts of service
5) Receiving gifts Taking the time to understand how you best feel and express love in comparison to how your partner best feels loved and expresses love for you can save a lot of hurt feelings, cold shoulders, disagreements, and knockdown, drag out, dish flinging arguments over the course of your relationship. Learn to Speak Your Partner's Love Language and Accept Love from Your Partner You see, people don't only have a little difficulty feeling loved by partners that speak different love languages. In some cases, they have a difficult time accepting love in that language. This leads to feelings of alienation, confusion, and inadequacy for partners and drives a wedge into the relationship. Learning to accept the love your partner has to offer while also learning to show love in a manner that will make your partner feel loved and cherished are equally important components when it comes to love languages. They are just as important as being able to make your partner feel the LOVE you have. Love languages are great, but they do take time to work with and to become effective tools for saving your relationship from impending breakup. There are other options to consider if you need more immediate results.
Breaking up is hard on everyone involved. If you're interested in hanging on to your relationship, then the best solution is to prevent the breakup in the first place. Preventative action can save you both the heartache of a breakup and the lengthy recovery and reconciliation process. More importantly, it can help prevent many damaging words and actions before they ever happen. But, how do you stop something that seems almost inevitable? Communicate More Effectively Guys and girls have this Mars and Venus issue when it comes to communication. John Gray, Pd.D. even wrote a book about it back during the early 1990's. The book was on the bestseller lists for an unprecedented 121 weeks because the concept was so simple, and yet, so foreign. Sometimes, the best solutions really are the simplest. The problem, according to this book, is that men and women communicate differently. What one person is saying (or intends to say) is not always what the other person in the relationship hears. This miscommunication often causes the perception of problems or issues in the relationship that only exists in the minds of the two people in the relationship. That's why learning to communicate effectively is so important for the sake of your sanity and your relationship. Discover Your Love Languages Everyone has a love language that best sums up the way the express love and the way they best FEEL loved.
The love languages include:
1) Words of affirmation
2) Physical touch
3) Quality time
4) Gifts of service
5) Receiving gifts Taking the time to understand how you best feel and express love in comparison to how your partner best feels loved and expresses love for you can save a lot of hurt feelings, cold shoulders, disagreements, and knockdown, drag out, dish flinging arguments over the course of your relationship. Learn to Speak Your Partner's Love Language and Accept Love from Your Partner You see, people don't only have a little difficulty feeling loved by partners that speak different love languages. In some cases, they have a difficult time accepting love in that language. This leads to feelings of alienation, confusion, and inadequacy for partners and drives a wedge into the relationship. Learning to accept the love your partner has to offer while also learning to show love in a manner that will make your partner feel loved and cherished are equally important components when it comes to love languages. They are just as important as being able to make your partner feel the LOVE you have. Love languages are great, but they do take time to work with and to become effective tools for saving your relationship from impending breakup. There are other options to consider if you need more immediate results.
Simple Truths Every Girl Needs to Know about Her Guy
Girls often have a hard time relating to the guys they love. There is a lot of truth to the 1990's Mars and Venus book series by Dr. John Gray. Men and women seem to speak and understand different languages from one another. Girls don't understand what their guys are really saying and get their feelings hurt quite often when no negativity was implied from the guy at all. Then he's baffled that she's suddenly giving him the silent treatment and holding back tears. Then the you know what hits the fan and it's flying dishes and fireworks everywhere. But it doesn't HAVE to be that way. There are a few simple truths that could very well be relationship savers when girls figure them out about their men.
1) He Really Does Think about Nothing It's true. And every girl doubts it. You ask him what he's thinking about. He says nothing. You get upset or hurt that he isn't sharing with you. You think he's hiding something from you. The truth is, he really isn't thinking about a darn thing. If anything you might be jealous that you can't harness that power yourself to see what it feels like to really think about nothing at all.
2) He Loves You Just the Way You Are He really does. The only problem is that he never wants you to change. He'd be happiest if you'd stay the way you were the day you met forever. He wants you all flirty, happy, eager to impress, and lovey dovey. He doesn't want that to end.
3) He Doesn't Like Change He doesn't want you to change, as we've already mention, but he also doesn't want to change himself. That's why he's so reluctant to eat healthier, start exercising, or cut out the salt. He really would be happy to have meatloaf every Monday, sit in the same recliner for fifty years, and drive the same truck until the tires fell off. It's also why he has a not to subtle panic attack (though he'll deny that until his dying day) whenever you start to make changes.
4) He has Emotional Needs Too Women often mistake their husbands, boyfriends, etc. for people who lack emotional depth. The thing is, men have deep feelings. They don't wear their emotions on their sleeves. Those waters run very deep. He may not profess his undying love for you every day, he may never be the Hallmark man of the year, but his love for you and his family is something he feels down deep and he needs reassurance from you, that his love is returned. Once you understand these simple truths about the guys you love, you may find a new understanding for the dynamics in your relationship. Hopefully, you'll have a new appreciation for the man you love and what really drives him in life so your relationship can be stronger than ever before.
Girls often have a hard time relating to the guys they love. There is a lot of truth to the 1990's Mars and Venus book series by Dr. John Gray. Men and women seem to speak and understand different languages from one another. Girls don't understand what their guys are really saying and get their feelings hurt quite often when no negativity was implied from the guy at all. Then he's baffled that she's suddenly giving him the silent treatment and holding back tears. Then the you know what hits the fan and it's flying dishes and fireworks everywhere. But it doesn't HAVE to be that way. There are a few simple truths that could very well be relationship savers when girls figure them out about their men.
1) He Really Does Think about Nothing It's true. And every girl doubts it. You ask him what he's thinking about. He says nothing. You get upset or hurt that he isn't sharing with you. You think he's hiding something from you. The truth is, he really isn't thinking about a darn thing. If anything you might be jealous that you can't harness that power yourself to see what it feels like to really think about nothing at all.
2) He Loves You Just the Way You Are He really does. The only problem is that he never wants you to change. He'd be happiest if you'd stay the way you were the day you met forever. He wants you all flirty, happy, eager to impress, and lovey dovey. He doesn't want that to end.
3) He Doesn't Like Change He doesn't want you to change, as we've already mention, but he also doesn't want to change himself. That's why he's so reluctant to eat healthier, start exercising, or cut out the salt. He really would be happy to have meatloaf every Monday, sit in the same recliner for fifty years, and drive the same truck until the tires fell off. It's also why he has a not to subtle panic attack (though he'll deny that until his dying day) whenever you start to make changes.
4) He has Emotional Needs Too Women often mistake their husbands, boyfriends, etc. for people who lack emotional depth. The thing is, men have deep feelings. They don't wear their emotions on their sleeves. Those waters run very deep. He may not profess his undying love for you every day, he may never be the Hallmark man of the year, but his love for you and his family is something he feels down deep and he needs reassurance from you, that his love is returned. Once you understand these simple truths about the guys you love, you may find a new understanding for the dynamics in your relationship. Hopefully, you'll have a new appreciation for the man you love and what really drives him in life so your relationship can be stronger than ever before.
Four Great ways to Get Your Girl's Attention
Not too long ago, there was a series of commercials, by a mobile phone provider oddly enough, about mobile phone "really?" moments. The premise of the commercial was that this new phone could get you in, out, and back to real life faster than the other phones on the market. The commercial made a great point however. We humans seem to have a hard time getting each other's attention these days. Even in loving relationships, getting your girl's attention can be, difficult. However, these four tips will get you her undivided attention if you go about them the right way.
1) Get Her Away from the Crowd If there is constantly a group of people or an audience around, it's difficult to get through the clutter of other opinions, other advice, and other recommendations. Now is a great time to plan a weekend out of town for the two of you so that you can reconnect with one another without an audience hanging on your every word.
2) Plan an Electronic Free Weekend This includes all electronic devices (mobile phones, tablets, laptops, televisions, video game systems, iPods, the whole shebang) if you want it to be effective. The idea is that you'll be forced to rely on each other for communication, companionship, and attention. Play games together, talk to each other, and reconnect in a way you haven't managed in quite a while. You'll be surprised by what a difference going two days without all the distractions can do for your relationship.
3) Send her Flowers - For No Reason You better believe this will get her attention. She's definitely going to want to know what's going on, what's happened, and what you're attempting to apologize for. It will drive her mad with curiosity and have her hanging on your every word until she feels she's gotten to the bottom of things.
4) Clean the House After she picks her jaw up off the floor or wakes up from passing out, she'll be dying to know what's going on, who's coming over, and whether or not you've become a Stepford husband. If house cleaning is something you just can't handle or she does such a great job that it never needs extra help, consider completing some other project she's been asking/nagging you to do for a while now. Just finishing it will be a gift to both of you at this point and will certainly get her attention. You don't have to move heaven and earth to make a favorable impression with the girl you love. Little steps can make a big difference in your relationship and ensure that you have her undivided attention now and help you keep it in the future.
Not too long ago, there was a series of commercials, by a mobile phone provider oddly enough, about mobile phone "really?" moments. The premise of the commercial was that this new phone could get you in, out, and back to real life faster than the other phones on the market. The commercial made a great point however. We humans seem to have a hard time getting each other's attention these days. Even in loving relationships, getting your girl's attention can be, difficult. However, these four tips will get you her undivided attention if you go about them the right way.
1) Get Her Away from the Crowd If there is constantly a group of people or an audience around, it's difficult to get through the clutter of other opinions, other advice, and other recommendations. Now is a great time to plan a weekend out of town for the two of you so that you can reconnect with one another without an audience hanging on your every word.
2) Plan an Electronic Free Weekend This includes all electronic devices (mobile phones, tablets, laptops, televisions, video game systems, iPods, the whole shebang) if you want it to be effective. The idea is that you'll be forced to rely on each other for communication, companionship, and attention. Play games together, talk to each other, and reconnect in a way you haven't managed in quite a while. You'll be surprised by what a difference going two days without all the distractions can do for your relationship.
3) Send her Flowers - For No Reason You better believe this will get her attention. She's definitely going to want to know what's going on, what's happened, and what you're attempting to apologize for. It will drive her mad with curiosity and have her hanging on your every word until she feels she's gotten to the bottom of things.
4) Clean the House After she picks her jaw up off the floor or wakes up from passing out, she'll be dying to know what's going on, who's coming over, and whether or not you've become a Stepford husband. If house cleaning is something you just can't handle or she does such a great job that it never needs extra help, consider completing some other project she's been asking/nagging you to do for a while now. Just finishing it will be a gift to both of you at this point and will certainly get her attention. You don't have to move heaven and earth to make a favorable impression with the girl you love. Little steps can make a big difference in your relationship and ensure that you have her undivided attention now and help you keep it in the future.
How to Make Her Feel Like the Queen of Your World
Have you ever noticed that even in marriages where the couples seem to have it all -- looks, money, the perfect story -- things sometimes fall apart? It leaves a lot of mere mortals without the fairy tale budgets and picture perfect smile stand a chance. The truth is, that the regular people of the world stand as much of a chance as those with big budgets to buy their girls a little bit of everything. Why? Because when it comes down to it, most girls aren't proverbial material girls no matter how great of a show they put on. They may claim that diamonds are a girl's best friend. They certainly won't turn them down when offered. But, what a girl really wants is to feel like the queen of your world and not just an afterthought. These simple steps might not sound like much, but they'll make a world of difference to the girl who is currently queen of your heart. Sweat the Details Many men follow the wrong advice when they listen to people telling them not to sweat the small stuff. Life is the small stuff. It's the small stuff that passes by, ignored and overlooked, while you're busy looking for the big statement items. Don't let her get away because you were so busy looking for something monumental to show your love that you overlooked a thousand small ways you could have told her or showed her how you feel. Kiss her Hellos and Goodbye - No Matter What Life gets busy sometimes. It's easy to overlook the details of what's going on at home when you have a thousand different demands firing your way at the office or you're worried about how you're going to make ends meet next month. Whatever your worries may be, you should have no worry greater in your life than greeting your girl hello and leaving her with something to remember you by throughout the day. The perfect solution? A kiss. It costs little and speaks volumes. Give her a Night Off Each Week There's nothing the average busy wife and mother wants more than a night off each week. Come home and take over. Plan the meals. Feed the kids. Bathe the kids. Tuck them in. Draw her a bath and take over kitchen cleanup duties while she relaxes in the tub. It will feel like a little piece of paradise to her and show her just how devoted to her you really are. Send her Silly Little Love Notes They may seem silly to you, but these are the things she'll read a thousand times over the years. She'll wrap them in ribbons and take them out to look over whenever the road gets a little rough between you. If you continue sending them, she'll often revisit them to see how things have changed, and how much they've stayed the same between the two of you. You don't have to spend ridiculous sums of money to show her that she really is the queen of your hearts. More importantly, these small gestures make her feel like she's the queen of your world too.
Have you ever noticed that even in marriages where the couples seem to have it all -- looks, money, the perfect story -- things sometimes fall apart? It leaves a lot of mere mortals without the fairy tale budgets and picture perfect smile stand a chance. The truth is, that the regular people of the world stand as much of a chance as those with big budgets to buy their girls a little bit of everything. Why? Because when it comes down to it, most girls aren't proverbial material girls no matter how great of a show they put on. They may claim that diamonds are a girl's best friend. They certainly won't turn them down when offered. But, what a girl really wants is to feel like the queen of your world and not just an afterthought. These simple steps might not sound like much, but they'll make a world of difference to the girl who is currently queen of your heart. Sweat the Details Many men follow the wrong advice when they listen to people telling them not to sweat the small stuff. Life is the small stuff. It's the small stuff that passes by, ignored and overlooked, while you're busy looking for the big statement items. Don't let her get away because you were so busy looking for something monumental to show your love that you overlooked a thousand small ways you could have told her or showed her how you feel. Kiss her Hellos and Goodbye - No Matter What Life gets busy sometimes. It's easy to overlook the details of what's going on at home when you have a thousand different demands firing your way at the office or you're worried about how you're going to make ends meet next month. Whatever your worries may be, you should have no worry greater in your life than greeting your girl hello and leaving her with something to remember you by throughout the day. The perfect solution? A kiss. It costs little and speaks volumes. Give her a Night Off Each Week There's nothing the average busy wife and mother wants more than a night off each week. Come home and take over. Plan the meals. Feed the kids. Bathe the kids. Tuck them in. Draw her a bath and take over kitchen cleanup duties while she relaxes in the tub. It will feel like a little piece of paradise to her and show her just how devoted to her you really are. Send her Silly Little Love Notes They may seem silly to you, but these are the things she'll read a thousand times over the years. She'll wrap them in ribbons and take them out to look over whenever the road gets a little rough between you. If you continue sending them, she'll often revisit them to see how things have changed, and how much they've stayed the same between the two of you. You don't have to spend ridiculous sums of money to show her that she really is the queen of your hearts. More importantly, these small gestures make her feel like she's the queen of your world too.
Reasons You Deserve Better and Why You Should Ask for it Before You Get Your Ex Back
No matter how down and out you feel about the ending of your relationship, it's important to understand that it's not completely your fault things didn't work out. No matter what your ex tries to convince you, it takes two people to make or break a relationship. It will take two people working together to put it back together again. You need to understand this and ask for things to change before you get your ex back. These are the reasons why you deserve better in the future. You Bring Value to the Relationship Too Everyone in a relationship has a role to play and a contribution to make. Both of you bring something special and unique to the relationship. The key is to learn to value your own contribution to the relationship and ask for the things you need that you aren't getting out of the relationship. It's also equally important that you invite your boyfriend to do the same and listen with an open mind when he does. He'll Respect You More For It Respect is important for men. They love being shown respect. Even more, they love it when the woman they love earns their respect. He wants to be proud of you. He also wants to be proud to be associated with you. When you stand up for yourself and ask him to show you the respect you deserve, he will be a little surprised at first, but much more likely to deliver than if you never asked. Respect is a Two-Way Street It's very important to show your man respect. It's one of the most important things you can do for your man if you want to keep him happy and make your relationship last. But you also need to expect it from him. Be careful about accepting anything less than the respect you deserve from him and for going back to him if he isn't willing to give you the respect. Respect should never be given that it isn't earned and it should never be sacrificed in the name of love. Because You're Worth It Back in the 1980's, a prominent cosmetics company coined the phrase, "Because you're worth it." The slogan was to remind women that they deserve the very best in cosmetics and hair care items because of all the things they do at home, on the job, and in their relationships. While the slogan still circulates, the message has gotten lost in a large segment of women. You forget that you deserve respect. You're worth it. Say it with me. "You're worth it!" Now remember that whenever tempers flare and disrespectful words are uttered or deeds are done and demand better in the future - for the sake of your relationship and your sanity. It's not enough to go back to the way things were right before your breakup. You need to do better this time around. Better begins with asking for the things you need in the relationship and expecting to get them this time around.
No matter how down and out you feel about the ending of your relationship, it's important to understand that it's not completely your fault things didn't work out. No matter what your ex tries to convince you, it takes two people to make or break a relationship. It will take two people working together to put it back together again. You need to understand this and ask for things to change before you get your ex back. These are the reasons why you deserve better in the future. You Bring Value to the Relationship Too Everyone in a relationship has a role to play and a contribution to make. Both of you bring something special and unique to the relationship. The key is to learn to value your own contribution to the relationship and ask for the things you need that you aren't getting out of the relationship. It's also equally important that you invite your boyfriend to do the same and listen with an open mind when he does. He'll Respect You More For It Respect is important for men. They love being shown respect. Even more, they love it when the woman they love earns their respect. He wants to be proud of you. He also wants to be proud to be associated with you. When you stand up for yourself and ask him to show you the respect you deserve, he will be a little surprised at first, but much more likely to deliver than if you never asked. Respect is a Two-Way Street It's very important to show your man respect. It's one of the most important things you can do for your man if you want to keep him happy and make your relationship last. But you also need to expect it from him. Be careful about accepting anything less than the respect you deserve from him and for going back to him if he isn't willing to give you the respect. Respect should never be given that it isn't earned and it should never be sacrificed in the name of love. Because You're Worth It Back in the 1980's, a prominent cosmetics company coined the phrase, "Because you're worth it." The slogan was to remind women that they deserve the very best in cosmetics and hair care items because of all the things they do at home, on the job, and in their relationships. While the slogan still circulates, the message has gotten lost in a large segment of women. You forget that you deserve respect. You're worth it. Say it with me. "You're worth it!" Now remember that whenever tempers flare and disrespectful words are uttered or deeds are done and demand better in the future - for the sake of your relationship and your sanity. It's not enough to go back to the way things were right before your breakup. You need to do better this time around. Better begins with asking for the things you need in the relationship and expecting to get them this time around.
Relationship Help - Money Management Communication is Key to Happy Home
Money isn't the root of all evil, but evidence suggests it is the leading cause of separations and divorces throughout the world. Even if both partners agree to the overall idea that they need to manage their money better, problems arise, when they disagree over how to manage the money or have miscommunications regarding who is or isn't going to do what with the money. Here are a few universal truths to keep your money management plan for a happy marriage from falling apart as rapidly as your marriage. Make Sure Both Partners have Some "Fun" Money of their Own Invariably there is one person who makes more money than the other in the relationship. Neither partner should be investing 100 percent of earnings into the bill, family, and grocery till. Both of you need a little extra money to pursue things that are important and enjoyable to you without jeopardizing the entire family budget. In order words, you need to plan a set amount for fun money, for each of you, before you do anything else. Don't Overlook the Children Invariably when this happens, the responsibility of giving the kids fun money falls on one parent or the other and it almost always comes from the "fun" money fund - rendering it not so fun. Whether it's setting aside funds for allowances, school needs, clothing, entertainment, sports, etc. those expenses need to be factored into the family budget and a set amount of spending for these things needs to be determined as well. Choose Areas of Drastic Spending Restraints Together Both voices in the relationship need to chime in where major spending cuts are concerned. Sacrifices need to be made on all sides of the equation if you're going to set financial goals and plan for a financial future together. Otherwise, why are you working to save for the future at all? It's about togetherness and shouldn't feel as a punishment for one person while the other person is making few, if any concessions. Put it All in Writing Iron out the details. Write it down. Make a copy. You both must be on the same page when it comes to the new family budget and money management efforts if either of you are going to be happy with the outcome. More importantly, seeing the revised plan on paper gives you both the opportunity to see if there are any spending weaknesses, forgotten expenses, or other concerns that have been overlooked in your plan. It seems like such a simple step, and yet, so much can be riding on working it out amiably. Don't let your relationship go down without a fight because one of you has a hard time managing money. Sit down and work on a plan that promises success.
Money isn't the root of all evil, but evidence suggests it is the leading cause of separations and divorces throughout the world. Even if both partners agree to the overall idea that they need to manage their money better, problems arise, when they disagree over how to manage the money or have miscommunications regarding who is or isn't going to do what with the money. Here are a few universal truths to keep your money management plan for a happy marriage from falling apart as rapidly as your marriage. Make Sure Both Partners have Some "Fun" Money of their Own Invariably there is one person who makes more money than the other in the relationship. Neither partner should be investing 100 percent of earnings into the bill, family, and grocery till. Both of you need a little extra money to pursue things that are important and enjoyable to you without jeopardizing the entire family budget. In order words, you need to plan a set amount for fun money, for each of you, before you do anything else. Don't Overlook the Children Invariably when this happens, the responsibility of giving the kids fun money falls on one parent or the other and it almost always comes from the "fun" money fund - rendering it not so fun. Whether it's setting aside funds for allowances, school needs, clothing, entertainment, sports, etc. those expenses need to be factored into the family budget and a set amount of spending for these things needs to be determined as well. Choose Areas of Drastic Spending Restraints Together Both voices in the relationship need to chime in where major spending cuts are concerned. Sacrifices need to be made on all sides of the equation if you're going to set financial goals and plan for a financial future together. Otherwise, why are you working to save for the future at all? It's about togetherness and shouldn't feel as a punishment for one person while the other person is making few, if any concessions. Put it All in Writing Iron out the details. Write it down. Make a copy. You both must be on the same page when it comes to the new family budget and money management efforts if either of you are going to be happy with the outcome. More importantly, seeing the revised plan on paper gives you both the opportunity to see if there are any spending weaknesses, forgotten expenses, or other concerns that have been overlooked in your plan. It seems like such a simple step, and yet, so much can be riding on working it out amiably. Don't let your relationship go down without a fight because one of you has a hard time managing money. Sit down and work on a plan that promises success.
Six Secrets for a Long Healthy Relationship
We live in a time when people change relationships more often than they change hairstyles. Some people would call them disposable. Easy come. Easy go. But, what happens, when you think you've found the one. You know, the one they wrote epic poems about long ago. The one that makes every other relationship pale by comparison -- at least as far as your relationship experiences are concerned. How do you hold on to this special relationship while so many other couples are unable to make it work? The key word here is work. You have to work at making relationships last. Fortunately for you, these six secrets for relationship success don't always feel like the hard work they are.
1) Communicate. You have to communicate effectively with each other. That doesn't simply mean you have to talk to each other. You have to also understand each other and be on the same page about many things in your relationships and in the lives you build together.
2) Connect. The physical connection between couples is vital to relationship longevity. It goes beyond what takes place in the bedroom however. You really do need the connection of human touch to help solidify your bond. Cuddle together on the couch, hold hands in the theater, and hug each other as often as possible. The more you touch, in a genuine and affectionate manner, generally speaking, the happier you are together.
3) Find common ground. Every relationship needs a little common ground. These are the areas where the two of you have shared convictions. Sometimes these convictions are based on morals or religion. Other times they're related to causes or politics. Whatever your shared convictions may be, it's a wise plan to cultivate that common ground and grow together.
4) Shared interests. This is a little different than common ground. Your interests don't have to be on the same scale. However, if you both love the ocean you might find that buying a sailboat, for instance, is a great way to feed the love of sailing the open seas for one while feeding the love of water and sunshine for the other. You both love the ocean and sailing gives you an opportunity to enjoy the thing you both love together.
5) Companionship. You must spend time together if your relationship is going to work. Otherwise there really isn't a relationship to cultivate. Time is critical. Finding positive ways to spend your time together, even in troubling times, is a great way to build a stronger relationship together -- especially if you're both committed to the cause of making your relationship last.
6) Time apart. While it's important to spend time as a couple in order to cultivate and grow the relationship, it's also important to enjoy a little time outside of your partner's company. You both need friends on the side for blowing off steam, wise counsel, and a little break from the intensity of the relationship. These six secrets may not look like all that much on a piece of paper, but over the years, they will all make a huge difference in the strength and resilience of your relationship together. Keep them in mind at all times for best results.
We live in a time when people change relationships more often than they change hairstyles. Some people would call them disposable. Easy come. Easy go. But, what happens, when you think you've found the one. You know, the one they wrote epic poems about long ago. The one that makes every other relationship pale by comparison -- at least as far as your relationship experiences are concerned. How do you hold on to this special relationship while so many other couples are unable to make it work? The key word here is work. You have to work at making relationships last. Fortunately for you, these six secrets for relationship success don't always feel like the hard work they are.
1) Communicate. You have to communicate effectively with each other. That doesn't simply mean you have to talk to each other. You have to also understand each other and be on the same page about many things in your relationships and in the lives you build together.
2) Connect. The physical connection between couples is vital to relationship longevity. It goes beyond what takes place in the bedroom however. You really do need the connection of human touch to help solidify your bond. Cuddle together on the couch, hold hands in the theater, and hug each other as often as possible. The more you touch, in a genuine and affectionate manner, generally speaking, the happier you are together.
3) Find common ground. Every relationship needs a little common ground. These are the areas where the two of you have shared convictions. Sometimes these convictions are based on morals or religion. Other times they're related to causes or politics. Whatever your shared convictions may be, it's a wise plan to cultivate that common ground and grow together.
4) Shared interests. This is a little different than common ground. Your interests don't have to be on the same scale. However, if you both love the ocean you might find that buying a sailboat, for instance, is a great way to feed the love of sailing the open seas for one while feeding the love of water and sunshine for the other. You both love the ocean and sailing gives you an opportunity to enjoy the thing you both love together.
5) Companionship. You must spend time together if your relationship is going to work. Otherwise there really isn't a relationship to cultivate. Time is critical. Finding positive ways to spend your time together, even in troubling times, is a great way to build a stronger relationship together -- especially if you're both committed to the cause of making your relationship last.
6) Time apart. While it's important to spend time as a couple in order to cultivate and grow the relationship, it's also important to enjoy a little time outside of your partner's company. You both need friends on the side for blowing off steam, wise counsel, and a little break from the intensity of the relationship. These six secrets may not look like all that much on a piece of paper, but over the years, they will all make a huge difference in the strength and resilience of your relationship together. Keep them in mind at all times for best results.
Three Reasons It's Highly Effective To Get Your Ex Back by Going "No Contact"
Depending on how long you've been trying to get your ex back, or how many times you've tried and failed already, you've probably heard people talking about giving up the concerted efforts you've been making and going "no contact" with your ex. At first glance that seems like a crazy plan! Right? The idea that you would be able to get your ex back by not trying to get her back sounds absolutely absurd. And yet, it works. In fact, it often works where everything else you've tried in the past has failed. Here are three reasons why.
1) Absence Does Make Hearts Fonder There's something about not being surrounded by memories, flooded by emotions, and constantly exposed to someone that makes it easier to look past the negative associations and see the positive. Once enough time has passed, the memories of arguments, fights, disagreements, and even petty annoyances fade. All that's left are the good memories and a sense of what she really does miss about you and your relationship.
2) Time Heals Old Wounds Even if things ended badly between you and things were said that shouldn't have been, time has an amazing way of soothing wounds and healing broken hearts. You'll be amazed by the types of wounds that can be healed when enough time is allowed to pass. Your ex can forgive the little things as well as the big things -- even cheating. But, you have to be willing to allow the right amount of time to pass to allow that to happen. And, the bigger the grievance, the longer time will need to pass before she's truly had time to heal.
3) She Can't Understand What She's Lost Until It's Truly Gone She'll never understand what she's missing out on without you in her life if you're a constant presence in her life. It's as simple as that. She's never going to take you back if she gets all the benefits of your presence, support, love, and friendship, without being required to return those things. Take a break. Step away. Don't answer when she calls. Then, wait. Wait for her to call you. Because one day she'll realize what she's lost and be ready to call you. There is a trick to make this work though. You have to take a hard line about it. I'm not saying you need to go out of your way to avoid her forever, though it's a good idea for a little while. You need to give her time and space. You need to wait long enough for her to start remembering the good and forgetting the bad. Most importantly, you need to give you both time to figure out what you want from the relationship and each other the second time around. Then, when the second chance arrives you need to take the time to make sure you're both on the same page about your expectations for the future.
Depending on how long you've been trying to get your ex back, or how many times you've tried and failed already, you've probably heard people talking about giving up the concerted efforts you've been making and going "no contact" with your ex. At first glance that seems like a crazy plan! Right? The idea that you would be able to get your ex back by not trying to get her back sounds absolutely absurd. And yet, it works. In fact, it often works where everything else you've tried in the past has failed. Here are three reasons why.
1) Absence Does Make Hearts Fonder There's something about not being surrounded by memories, flooded by emotions, and constantly exposed to someone that makes it easier to look past the negative associations and see the positive. Once enough time has passed, the memories of arguments, fights, disagreements, and even petty annoyances fade. All that's left are the good memories and a sense of what she really does miss about you and your relationship.
2) Time Heals Old Wounds Even if things ended badly between you and things were said that shouldn't have been, time has an amazing way of soothing wounds and healing broken hearts. You'll be amazed by the types of wounds that can be healed when enough time is allowed to pass. Your ex can forgive the little things as well as the big things -- even cheating. But, you have to be willing to allow the right amount of time to pass to allow that to happen. And, the bigger the grievance, the longer time will need to pass before she's truly had time to heal.
3) She Can't Understand What She's Lost Until It's Truly Gone She'll never understand what she's missing out on without you in her life if you're a constant presence in her life. It's as simple as that. She's never going to take you back if she gets all the benefits of your presence, support, love, and friendship, without being required to return those things. Take a break. Step away. Don't answer when she calls. Then, wait. Wait for her to call you. Because one day she'll realize what she's lost and be ready to call you. There is a trick to make this work though. You have to take a hard line about it. I'm not saying you need to go out of your way to avoid her forever, though it's a good idea for a little while. You need to give her time and space. You need to wait long enough for her to start remembering the good and forgetting the bad. Most importantly, you need to give you both time to figure out what you want from the relationship and each other the second time around. Then, when the second chance arrives you need to take the time to make sure you're both on the same page about your expectations for the future.
What a Girl Wants - And Why You're the Man to Give it to Her
Relationships with women can be a bit of a mystery to the modern man. It seems that girls today say one thing and want something else. In some ways that's true. Women are constantly at war with a long history of genetic encoding where relationships are concerned and thoroughly modern ideas of what relationships should be. Somewhere in the mix, is a very mixed up girl. However, there are a few things that are almost universally wanted by women in relationships today. Do these things and she's sure to be putty in your hands. Treat Her Like a Lady This is one thing that needs to be done in both word and deed. Talk to her and in her presence in a manner that's befitting a lady. It might receive a few raised eyebrows at first, because it's so novel. After a while, however, it will really begin to shape your entire relationship -- especially when you follow up with treating her like a lady. There's nothing wrong with opening doors, leading on the dance floors, and even small acts of chivalry. It's a lost art that many women truly lament. More importantly, most women want to be treated that way, they're just afraid to speak up and ask for it. Give Her Room to Grow Just as men don't appreciate being smothered in constant togetherness; women need a little time to pursue interests of their own. Whether it's educational, spiritual, or simply time to go out and connect with the girls, your lady needs to enjoy some space from the relationship so that she can feed the person she is as well as the partner she needs to be for you. At the same time, it's healthy for you to pursue outside interests such as hobbies, weekly poker night, or even joining a bowling league if that's your thing. You will grow much better together if you're also both growing as individuals in the process. Be a Partner to Share it All Relationships are partnerships whether you're entering your first year together or your fiftieth. She needs to know that you're her partner in every aspect of the relationship. She doesn't want to feel as though you're going to run out on her when the real work gets started, dishes need to be washed, or lawns require mowing. Even if you agree on how to split the responsibilities it's important to make those decisions together, as equals. Relationships today are much simpler than many people try to make them out. Girls are complex creatures to the average man who knows what he wants and isn't afraid to say it. Give her what she wants first; so that she never needs to ask for it, and she'll have a hard time even thinking about looking elsewhere for love.
Relationships with women can be a bit of a mystery to the modern man. It seems that girls today say one thing and want something else. In some ways that's true. Women are constantly at war with a long history of genetic encoding where relationships are concerned and thoroughly modern ideas of what relationships should be. Somewhere in the mix, is a very mixed up girl. However, there are a few things that are almost universally wanted by women in relationships today. Do these things and she's sure to be putty in your hands. Treat Her Like a Lady This is one thing that needs to be done in both word and deed. Talk to her and in her presence in a manner that's befitting a lady. It might receive a few raised eyebrows at first, because it's so novel. After a while, however, it will really begin to shape your entire relationship -- especially when you follow up with treating her like a lady. There's nothing wrong with opening doors, leading on the dance floors, and even small acts of chivalry. It's a lost art that many women truly lament. More importantly, most women want to be treated that way, they're just afraid to speak up and ask for it. Give Her Room to Grow Just as men don't appreciate being smothered in constant togetherness; women need a little time to pursue interests of their own. Whether it's educational, spiritual, or simply time to go out and connect with the girls, your lady needs to enjoy some space from the relationship so that she can feed the person she is as well as the partner she needs to be for you. At the same time, it's healthy for you to pursue outside interests such as hobbies, weekly poker night, or even joining a bowling league if that's your thing. You will grow much better together if you're also both growing as individuals in the process. Be a Partner to Share it All Relationships are partnerships whether you're entering your first year together or your fiftieth. She needs to know that you're her partner in every aspect of the relationship. She doesn't want to feel as though you're going to run out on her when the real work gets started, dishes need to be washed, or lawns require mowing. Even if you agree on how to split the responsibilities it's important to make those decisions together, as equals. Relationships today are much simpler than many people try to make them out. Girls are complex creatures to the average man who knows what he wants and isn't afraid to say it. Give her what she wants first; so that she never needs to ask for it, and she'll have a hard time even thinking about looking elsewhere for love.
What Do Men Need from the Women They Love?
Men really do have simple needs when it comes to relationships. Despite their resistance to change, men have adapted well to the falling away from "love, honor, and obey" (mostly the obey part of that to be honest) as the commandment of all things relationship. However, that doesn't imply that they don't have needs of their own that must be addressed in order for them to remain happy in their marriages. In fact, men have very strong needs - though he'll likely never explain them to you. There are three overriding needs, though, that every girl needs to understand and meet in order to have a truly happy relationship with the man she loves.
1) Show Him Respect You don't have to bow down before him or anything like that. You don't even need to defer to him, although, at the proper moments in the relationship this can really stroke his ego and make him fall even harder in love with you. The main ways to show respect are in how you interact. Don't talk down to him. Don't make him feel inferior. And for goodness sakes, avoid criticism -- especially in the form of nagging -- at all costs. This makes him feel as though you're looking down on him and lack respect for him. It leads to "greener grass syndrome" and other negative feelings about you and your relationship. It's hard ladies, to get him to do what you want sometimes. That's usually a sign that he really doesn't want to do the job - whatever the job may be. So, you have three choices that don't involve nagging.
1) Make him an offer that makes it worth his while to get the chore done by a specific time or date, do it yourself without holding a grudge (which may be easier said than done), or hire someone else to do it for the sake of the relationship. Even when money is tight, it's sometimes better to pay someone else to do the jobs neither of you are willing to do, but both want done. The respect you're both able to maintain for each other by doing this is worth its weight in gold.
2) Admiration Think long and hard. When was the first time you paid your handsome man a compliment? How about flirting? Do you engage in a little active flirting when you're out in public, riding in the car, through text messages at the office? When was the last time you let him know that you still think he rocks his Levi's? Little things like this make a huge difference to the man in your life and in your relationship.
3) Loyalty Never let him doubt your loyalty. There's no bigger relationship killer for men than this. Don't flirt with his best friend - or anyone else for that matter - in an attempt to make him jealous. It will backfire on you every time. Don't let him overhear you talking negatively about him around the girls. Show loyalty at all times and you can expect to receive the same kind of loyalty from him in return. Don't believe me? Try it out and see how quickly things change between you - for the better.
Men really do have simple needs when it comes to relationships. Despite their resistance to change, men have adapted well to the falling away from "love, honor, and obey" (mostly the obey part of that to be honest) as the commandment of all things relationship. However, that doesn't imply that they don't have needs of their own that must be addressed in order for them to remain happy in their marriages. In fact, men have very strong needs - though he'll likely never explain them to you. There are three overriding needs, though, that every girl needs to understand and meet in order to have a truly happy relationship with the man she loves.
1) Show Him Respect You don't have to bow down before him or anything like that. You don't even need to defer to him, although, at the proper moments in the relationship this can really stroke his ego and make him fall even harder in love with you. The main ways to show respect are in how you interact. Don't talk down to him. Don't make him feel inferior. And for goodness sakes, avoid criticism -- especially in the form of nagging -- at all costs. This makes him feel as though you're looking down on him and lack respect for him. It leads to "greener grass syndrome" and other negative feelings about you and your relationship. It's hard ladies, to get him to do what you want sometimes. That's usually a sign that he really doesn't want to do the job - whatever the job may be. So, you have three choices that don't involve nagging.
1) Make him an offer that makes it worth his while to get the chore done by a specific time or date, do it yourself without holding a grudge (which may be easier said than done), or hire someone else to do it for the sake of the relationship. Even when money is tight, it's sometimes better to pay someone else to do the jobs neither of you are willing to do, but both want done. The respect you're both able to maintain for each other by doing this is worth its weight in gold.
2) Admiration Think long and hard. When was the first time you paid your handsome man a compliment? How about flirting? Do you engage in a little active flirting when you're out in public, riding in the car, through text messages at the office? When was the last time you let him know that you still think he rocks his Levi's? Little things like this make a huge difference to the man in your life and in your relationship.
3) Loyalty Never let him doubt your loyalty. There's no bigger relationship killer for men than this. Don't flirt with his best friend - or anyone else for that matter - in an attempt to make him jealous. It will backfire on you every time. Don't let him overhear you talking negatively about him around the girls. Show loyalty at all times and you can expect to receive the same kind of loyalty from him in return. Don't believe me? Try it out and see how quickly things change between you - for the better.
Why is it So Hard to Move On?
You see some people go through breakups who seem completely unflappable. They never seem to lose their motivation or sense of self the way you have. You can't figure out why you're having such as hard time while other men just move on to the next girl and act as though their worlds haven't stopped turning altogether. The truth is that for some men, the world hasn't stopped turning. They are able to move on because they never were fully invested in the relationship to begin with. But you can't seem to let go and move on. Is there a reason you're not able to put the past behind you and start to look towards the future again? The truth is there might be three.
1) Your Heart isn't In It? Your head may be ready to move forward, get out there, and start playing the field, but your heart still belongs to the girl that got away. Your heart has you convinced that there's still a chance, no matter how remote, and you want to try to make it work. You're still hoping to get her back even if your head is telling you it can't happen.
2) You Like What You Had You're not ready to give up on it. It was good between the two of you once upon a time. You believe, if you could just get her to see things your way, that it could be that good for the two of you again. It makes perfect sense to want to recapture something good that's gotten away from you. It might even be possible. The place where you're fuzzy is on how to make it happen.
3) You Don't Think it's Really Over You believe that she still have feelings for you. They may be buried deep down inside, but you believe she still loves you. Chances are good that you're right. Unfortunately for you, seeing the cold shoulder you've been getting lately, it seems like those feelings were buried very deep. The longer things go, though, the more time she has to deal with those feelings and put them to rest. That's good news for you because if you play your cards right and give her the space she needs, there's a good chance she'll rediscover that love for you. The thing to remember is that sometimes, it only takes going through the motions of moving on to realize how you really feel. Or, perhaps more importantly, to force her to confront how she really feels. While it's never good, to play head games with the girl you love, sometimes it helps to let things ride a little while and see where circumstance take you.
You see some people go through breakups who seem completely unflappable. They never seem to lose their motivation or sense of self the way you have. You can't figure out why you're having such as hard time while other men just move on to the next girl and act as though their worlds haven't stopped turning altogether. The truth is that for some men, the world hasn't stopped turning. They are able to move on because they never were fully invested in the relationship to begin with. But you can't seem to let go and move on. Is there a reason you're not able to put the past behind you and start to look towards the future again? The truth is there might be three.
1) Your Heart isn't In It? Your head may be ready to move forward, get out there, and start playing the field, but your heart still belongs to the girl that got away. Your heart has you convinced that there's still a chance, no matter how remote, and you want to try to make it work. You're still hoping to get her back even if your head is telling you it can't happen.
2) You Like What You Had You're not ready to give up on it. It was good between the two of you once upon a time. You believe, if you could just get her to see things your way, that it could be that good for the two of you again. It makes perfect sense to want to recapture something good that's gotten away from you. It might even be possible. The place where you're fuzzy is on how to make it happen.
3) You Don't Think it's Really Over You believe that she still have feelings for you. They may be buried deep down inside, but you believe she still loves you. Chances are good that you're right. Unfortunately for you, seeing the cold shoulder you've been getting lately, it seems like those feelings were buried very deep. The longer things go, though, the more time she has to deal with those feelings and put them to rest. That's good news for you because if you play your cards right and give her the space she needs, there's a good chance she'll rediscover that love for you. The thing to remember is that sometimes, it only takes going through the motions of moving on to realize how you really feel. Or, perhaps more importantly, to force her to confront how she really feels. While it's never good, to play head games with the girl you love, sometimes it helps to let things ride a little while and see where circumstance take you.
Building a Better Foundation for Your Marriage
Marriage requires work. This is something most couples don't understand -- at least when walking into the marriage contract. All relationships require work. Business relationships, parenting relationships, and yet, so many people are surprised to discover just how much work is required to make a marriage successful. Some couples do make it look easy. These are the couples, more often than not, who have built their marriages on solid foundations. If you're interested in keeping your marriage on track, getting it back on track, or trying to get it on track from the very beginning, you need to consider these tips for building a better foundation. Discuss Your Past - Briefly It's in the past and that's where it needs to remain. Unless you have major secrets you're hiding that could harm your relationship down the road, there isn't much to say about past relationships, connections, and events. That doesn't mean you should attempt to hide things. Only that it isn't necessary to discuss the intimate details of every boy you've kissed from third grade on up. Relationships are often made stronger because of a shared history but the relationships that last are the ones that keep their eyes on the future and are not constantly staring back into the past. This also works for fights, arguments, disagreements, etc. Leave them in the past and move on. If you can't forgive and forget, find a way to work it out so that you're not constantly dwelling on it. If it's an ongoing problem find a solution that works for you both or it will continue to be a problem for your marriage. Make Plans for the Future - Keep them Flexible Flexibility is a word that needs to be a cornerstone for all marriages. It's one thing to have a future mapped out together. You need to have plans for the future. But, you need to avoid sticking to those plans so rigidly that they jeopardize your future together. Embrace the Moment - You Never Know How Many You'll Have Life is short. And, it offers no guarantees. You never know how many sunrises and sunsets you'll get in your marriage. Illness, accidents, and even relationship turmoil can rob you of the future you hoped for. Cherish the time you have together. When petty arguments arise, really think, long and hard, if the argument is worth the discord. Decide if it's worth robbing you of the joy of being together -- even for a moment. Once you build a better foundation for your marriage, based on these principles, you'll see a huge difference in the way you approach problems and work to find solutions. Ultimately, you'll both have a happier marriage that requires less work than many other couples struggling for a future that isn't working for them, rehashing past arguments, or failing to take advantage of the time they have together today.
Marriage requires work. This is something most couples don't understand -- at least when walking into the marriage contract. All relationships require work. Business relationships, parenting relationships, and yet, so many people are surprised to discover just how much work is required to make a marriage successful. Some couples do make it look easy. These are the couples, more often than not, who have built their marriages on solid foundations. If you're interested in keeping your marriage on track, getting it back on track, or trying to get it on track from the very beginning, you need to consider these tips for building a better foundation. Discuss Your Past - Briefly It's in the past and that's where it needs to remain. Unless you have major secrets you're hiding that could harm your relationship down the road, there isn't much to say about past relationships, connections, and events. That doesn't mean you should attempt to hide things. Only that it isn't necessary to discuss the intimate details of every boy you've kissed from third grade on up. Relationships are often made stronger because of a shared history but the relationships that last are the ones that keep their eyes on the future and are not constantly staring back into the past. This also works for fights, arguments, disagreements, etc. Leave them in the past and move on. If you can't forgive and forget, find a way to work it out so that you're not constantly dwelling on it. If it's an ongoing problem find a solution that works for you both or it will continue to be a problem for your marriage. Make Plans for the Future - Keep them Flexible Flexibility is a word that needs to be a cornerstone for all marriages. It's one thing to have a future mapped out together. You need to have plans for the future. But, you need to avoid sticking to those plans so rigidly that they jeopardize your future together. Embrace the Moment - You Never Know How Many You'll Have Life is short. And, it offers no guarantees. You never know how many sunrises and sunsets you'll get in your marriage. Illness, accidents, and even relationship turmoil can rob you of the future you hoped for. Cherish the time you have together. When petty arguments arise, really think, long and hard, if the argument is worth the discord. Decide if it's worth robbing you of the joy of being together -- even for a moment. Once you build a better foundation for your marriage, based on these principles, you'll see a huge difference in the way you approach problems and work to find solutions. Ultimately, you'll both have a happier marriage that requires less work than many other couples struggling for a future that isn't working for them, rehashing past arguments, or failing to take advantage of the time they have together today.
How Do I Know He Loves Me?
From childhood games with folded paper fortune tellers to Whitney Houston blaring from your ear buds, girls have been asking the same question for eons. As long as love has been a concept in the hearts and minds of humanity, this question has been asked by women. Men aren't known for being open about their feelings. Some men are more open than others and sometimes it feels like he's telling you what he thinks you want to hear rather than how he really feels. So, how can you really know if he loves you? These are a few hard to mistake signs. He Reaches Out to You We live in a day and age where communication is nearly constant. And, yet, for many women it seems like you're always the one reaching out. If he is the first one to
� Call
� Text message
� Instant message
� Instagram
� Send messages on Facebook
� Email
the odds are great that he really has feelings for you he wants to explore. Men who are ambivalent rarely make the first move. They certainly don't go out of their way to send you messages in the morning or call you up out of the blue just to see how your day is going. He Tells You He Loves You The "L" word is difficult for many men to utter. Just trying to say it, for some men, makes them feel like their tongues have suddenly become glued to the tops of their mouths. You know, the peanut butter dry mouth syndrome. Even when they feel genuine love for you, it's nearly impossible for men to be the first to make that declaration. If he says he loves you, chances are, he really does. Don't expect him to make Herculean efforts, in your eyes, to prove it. From his perspective, just saying it was Herculean enough. He Deals with Your Friends and Family Men don't often tolerate uncomfortable scrutiny. The fact that he's willing to be put on the chopping block of public opinion with your friends and family says a lot about where his heart is. If he keeps going back for more punishment, you've got a real keeper on your hands. At the end of the day, though, it doesn't matter how often he tells you, what he puts up with to show you, or whether or not he makes the first move. What matters most is whether or not he makes you feel loved BY HIM. No amount of sweat talk or sincere gestures on his part are going to convince you if you don't feel the love he professes.
From childhood games with folded paper fortune tellers to Whitney Houston blaring from your ear buds, girls have been asking the same question for eons. As long as love has been a concept in the hearts and minds of humanity, this question has been asked by women. Men aren't known for being open about their feelings. Some men are more open than others and sometimes it feels like he's telling you what he thinks you want to hear rather than how he really feels. So, how can you really know if he loves you? These are a few hard to mistake signs. He Reaches Out to You We live in a day and age where communication is nearly constant. And, yet, for many women it seems like you're always the one reaching out. If he is the first one to
� Call
� Text message
� Instant message
� Send messages on Facebook
the odds are great that he really has feelings for you he wants to explore. Men who are ambivalent rarely make the first move. They certainly don't go out of their way to send you messages in the morning or call you up out of the blue just to see how your day is going. He Tells You He Loves You The "L" word is difficult for many men to utter. Just trying to say it, for some men, makes them feel like their tongues have suddenly become glued to the tops of their mouths. You know, the peanut butter dry mouth syndrome. Even when they feel genuine love for you, it's nearly impossible for men to be the first to make that declaration. If he says he loves you, chances are, he really does. Don't expect him to make Herculean efforts, in your eyes, to prove it. From his perspective, just saying it was Herculean enough. He Deals with Your Friends and Family Men don't often tolerate uncomfortable scrutiny. The fact that he's willing to be put on the chopping block of public opinion with your friends and family says a lot about where his heart is. If he keeps going back for more punishment, you've got a real keeper on your hands. At the end of the day, though, it doesn't matter how often he tells you, what he puts up with to show you, or whether or not he makes the first move. What matters most is whether or not he makes you feel loved BY HIM. No amount of sweat talk or sincere gestures on his part are going to convince you if you don't feel the love he professes.
How do I Make Him Fall Back in Love with Me?
Relationships often go in cycles. Sometimes things are up and it all seems like smooth sailing. At other times, you drift apart and the waters are choppy and sharks seem to be circling. Sometimes you break up. Other times your relationship simply limps along. That loving feeling you used to have together feels like it's gone for good. But, what if you could get it back? What steps do you need to take to make him fall back in love with YOU? Treat Yourself Like the Lady You Are Sometimes you forget to treat yourself like a lady. You forget that you need a little pampering. You need to feed your soul. More importantly, you need to take care of yourself -- physically. You need to eat right, exercise, take care of your skin, get a new hair cut, etc. You need to feel good about the reflection you see in the mirror. You need to do all the things a lady does to feel like someone who deserves to have doors opened for her as well as other acts of chivalry. Once you start treating yourself like a lady, chances are he's going to notice and start treating you like a lady too. Remember that this is about making you happy. Make changes that matter to you -- that will help you feel better about yourself and more confident. Some of the changes you might consider include:
� Diet/Weight loss
� Fitness
� Makeover
� Wardrobe update
� Spa treatment
� New hair style
� Manicure
� Pedicure
� Teeth whitening
The changes do not have to be drastic in order to have a drastic impact on your self-confidence and outlook on the world around you. Nor, do they need to be major overhauls to get him to take notice. The main take away from this, however, is not that he won't love you if you're imperfect. It is that it is easier for him to fall back in love with you if you aren't busy tearing yourself down for perceived flaws instead. Fall in Love with the Woman You Are While it's always good to strive for improvement, it's also important that you love yourself for the woman you are. He will find it much easier to love you all over again if you love yourself as well. I'm not suggesting that you become a woman who is self absorbed or self obsessed. Only that you accept yourself for who you are and find peace with that. Embrace your strengths. Work to change your weaknesses, but don't punish yourself for being human. All of us are. Once you learn to love yourself, you'll be a much happier, person he's likely to find irresistible. You don't have to move mountains or make miracles to win back his love. Love may ebb and flow over time but it takes a while to go away completely. The odds are in your favor that if he's loved you before, you can easily win back his love once you learn to love yourself too.
Relationships often go in cycles. Sometimes things are up and it all seems like smooth sailing. At other times, you drift apart and the waters are choppy and sharks seem to be circling. Sometimes you break up. Other times your relationship simply limps along. That loving feeling you used to have together feels like it's gone for good. But, what if you could get it back? What steps do you need to take to make him fall back in love with YOU? Treat Yourself Like the Lady You Are Sometimes you forget to treat yourself like a lady. You forget that you need a little pampering. You need to feed your soul. More importantly, you need to take care of yourself -- physically. You need to eat right, exercise, take care of your skin, get a new hair cut, etc. You need to feel good about the reflection you see in the mirror. You need to do all the things a lady does to feel like someone who deserves to have doors opened for her as well as other acts of chivalry. Once you start treating yourself like a lady, chances are he's going to notice and start treating you like a lady too. Remember that this is about making you happy. Make changes that matter to you -- that will help you feel better about yourself and more confident. Some of the changes you might consider include:
� Diet/Weight loss
� Fitness
� Makeover
� Wardrobe update
� Spa treatment
� New hair style
� Manicure
� Pedicure
� Teeth whitening
The changes do not have to be drastic in order to have a drastic impact on your self-confidence and outlook on the world around you. Nor, do they need to be major overhauls to get him to take notice. The main take away from this, however, is not that he won't love you if you're imperfect. It is that it is easier for him to fall back in love with you if you aren't busy tearing yourself down for perceived flaws instead. Fall in Love with the Woman You Are While it's always good to strive for improvement, it's also important that you love yourself for the woman you are. He will find it much easier to love you all over again if you love yourself as well. I'm not suggesting that you become a woman who is self absorbed or self obsessed. Only that you accept yourself for who you are and find peace with that. Embrace your strengths. Work to change your weaknesses, but don't punish yourself for being human. All of us are. Once you learn to love yourself, you'll be a much happier, person he's likely to find irresistible. You don't have to move mountains or make miracles to win back his love. Love may ebb and flow over time but it takes a while to go away completely. The odds are in your favor that if he's loved you before, you can easily win back his love once you learn to love yourself too.
How Successful Are Online Relationships Really?
You've probably heard of someone who met someone online, starting dating, and is now making wedding plans. Or perhaps your friend, relative, or loved one is already married to the person they met online. But, you're skeptical. Just how serious can the relationship be? Surely there is an epic fail for more than half of the relationships that begin online.
Right?
Wrong!
At least that's the news according to a recent poll of nearly 20,000 couples. The study, conducted by the National Academy of Science explored almost 20,000 couples who were married between the years of 2005 and 2012. The study discovered that roughly 35 percent of them met their mates on the Internet. Half of that 35 percent met specifically on Internet dating websites. The surprising thing the research revealed was not how many couples meet online or even that the number is growing fast. What was really surprising is that the couples who met online generally enjoyed greater satisfaction in their marriages as well as a higher success rate. In fact, eight percent of marriages where the couples met offline ended in divorce while only six percent of the marriages initiated via the World Wide Web ended up in divorce court. Are there any conclusions real world couples can draw from this knowledge? Do you have to go to the Internet in order to have a successful relationship or marriage? Absolutely not! But, there is a fair consensus as to why these relationships tend to be more successful, long-term, than many relationships initiated offline.
1) Both parties are typically looking to settle down and have marriage on their minds once they start sifting through online dating profiles.
2) Couples who meet on the Internet go through a more vigorous screening process than people who meet in a coffee shop, bookstore, or single's bar.
3) The pool of prospects is much larger than the average person encounters at the "usual" meeting locations.
Before you give up on traditional meet-ups altogether and hit the Internet for your shot at happily ever after, you should also note the people who met online in gaming environments where they were able to hide their natural personalities behind avatars or play a role, were almost equal in success to those who met in bars and other offline locations. If you're currently in a relationship, regardless of where the relationship began, it requires work, love, and a great deal of affection to keep it going and maintain the love. The meeting location has little to do with your commitment to your marriage or your willingness to work through the dry patches that come along. Only you can decide that.
You've probably heard of someone who met someone online, starting dating, and is now making wedding plans. Or perhaps your friend, relative, or loved one is already married to the person they met online. But, you're skeptical. Just how serious can the relationship be? Surely there is an epic fail for more than half of the relationships that begin online.
Right?
Wrong!
At least that's the news according to a recent poll of nearly 20,000 couples. The study, conducted by the National Academy of Science explored almost 20,000 couples who were married between the years of 2005 and 2012. The study discovered that roughly 35 percent of them met their mates on the Internet. Half of that 35 percent met specifically on Internet dating websites. The surprising thing the research revealed was not how many couples meet online or even that the number is growing fast. What was really surprising is that the couples who met online generally enjoyed greater satisfaction in their marriages as well as a higher success rate. In fact, eight percent of marriages where the couples met offline ended in divorce while only six percent of the marriages initiated via the World Wide Web ended up in divorce court. Are there any conclusions real world couples can draw from this knowledge? Do you have to go to the Internet in order to have a successful relationship or marriage? Absolutely not! But, there is a fair consensus as to why these relationships tend to be more successful, long-term, than many relationships initiated offline.
1) Both parties are typically looking to settle down and have marriage on their minds once they start sifting through online dating profiles.
2) Couples who meet on the Internet go through a more vigorous screening process than people who meet in a coffee shop, bookstore, or single's bar.
3) The pool of prospects is much larger than the average person encounters at the "usual" meeting locations.
Before you give up on traditional meet-ups altogether and hit the Internet for your shot at happily ever after, you should also note the people who met online in gaming environments where they were able to hide their natural personalities behind avatars or play a role, were almost equal in success to those who met in bars and other offline locations. If you're currently in a relationship, regardless of where the relationship began, it requires work, love, and a great deal of affection to keep it going and maintain the love. The meeting location has little to do with your commitment to your marriage or your willingness to work through the dry patches that come along. Only you can decide that.
Marriage Mistakes Women Make and How to Avoid Them
Marriage is a complex entity that rarely turns out quite the way you envisioned while making plans and picking out China patterns and wedding dresses. It was so much simpler when it was all on paper and everything matched up perfectly. Real life is never quite so neat and tidy. Unfortunately, many couples put far more thought into planning the details of their marriage without putting a single thought into what's going to happen once the vows are made. If you're getting ready to take your walk down the aisle, keep these mistakes in mind so you can avoid them in your marriage. Don't Tell Your Friends about Your Problems It may seem like the thing to do. Your best friend has been by your side through thick and thin over the years. You want to turn to her as a sounding board for your marital troubles. Unfortunately, there's a big problem with that. Your friend loves YOU. The jury's still out on the man you married. If you're going to her to unload all the negatives, she's going to hate him on your behalf and never give him or your marriage a real chance. Over time, the strain will become problematic and you'll either cut ties with your husband (at your friend's urging) or your friend because she's just too antagonistic towards the man you love. Don't Expect Him to Change There's an old saying about men and women and how they view marriage. Men, according to this old saying, find the perfect woman and marry her hoping she'll never change. Women go out and find a great start and marry him hoping to change him. Unfortunately for you, men are reluctant to change and are often actually hurt by your efforts to force them to change. If you seriously want change in the marriage or the relationship, it's best to begin by making positive changes for yourself. He'll notice those and often want to be part of it, once he decides it's a change for the better and not simply for the sake of change. But if you go in expecting him to change it's going to leave you both feeling disappointed and out of sorts. Don't Forget to Connect with Your Husband We nurture many connections in life. We try to build relationships with our children, with our friends, and even with our coworkers. People reach out and connect on social media networks and online message boards in their "after hours". Connections are more important now than ever before. And yet so many people fail to reach out and make the connection with the one person who is most important to them. They believe they feel it should somehow be automatic and require no active participation in order to keep going. Nothing could be further from the truth. You have to build the bond with shared activities and experiences if you want the bond of marriage to survive the tests of time. These are small mistakes that can really cost your marriage if you allow them to. Avoid making them and you're sure to have a healthier, happier, and more loving relationship with your husband now and in the years to come.
Marriage is a complex entity that rarely turns out quite the way you envisioned while making plans and picking out China patterns and wedding dresses. It was so much simpler when it was all on paper and everything matched up perfectly. Real life is never quite so neat and tidy. Unfortunately, many couples put far more thought into planning the details of their marriage without putting a single thought into what's going to happen once the vows are made. If you're getting ready to take your walk down the aisle, keep these mistakes in mind so you can avoid them in your marriage. Don't Tell Your Friends about Your Problems It may seem like the thing to do. Your best friend has been by your side through thick and thin over the years. You want to turn to her as a sounding board for your marital troubles. Unfortunately, there's a big problem with that. Your friend loves YOU. The jury's still out on the man you married. If you're going to her to unload all the negatives, she's going to hate him on your behalf and never give him or your marriage a real chance. Over time, the strain will become problematic and you'll either cut ties with your husband (at your friend's urging) or your friend because she's just too antagonistic towards the man you love. Don't Expect Him to Change There's an old saying about men and women and how they view marriage. Men, according to this old saying, find the perfect woman and marry her hoping she'll never change. Women go out and find a great start and marry him hoping to change him. Unfortunately for you, men are reluctant to change and are often actually hurt by your efforts to force them to change. If you seriously want change in the marriage or the relationship, it's best to begin by making positive changes for yourself. He'll notice those and often want to be part of it, once he decides it's a change for the better and not simply for the sake of change. But if you go in expecting him to change it's going to leave you both feeling disappointed and out of sorts. Don't Forget to Connect with Your Husband We nurture many connections in life. We try to build relationships with our children, with our friends, and even with our coworkers. People reach out and connect on social media networks and online message boards in their "after hours". Connections are more important now than ever before. And yet so many people fail to reach out and make the connection with the one person who is most important to them. They believe they feel it should somehow be automatic and require no active participation in order to keep going. Nothing could be further from the truth. You have to build the bond with shared activities and experiences if you want the bond of marriage to survive the tests of time. These are small mistakes that can really cost your marriage if you allow them to. Avoid making them and you're sure to have a healthier, happier, and more loving relationship with your husband now and in the years to come.
Money Matters - Could You Be Spending Your Way to a Breakup?
The number one cause of breakups and divorces around the world isn't what most people think it is. It isn't infidelity, in spite of the high number of people in relationships admitting to cheating. Instead, it is arguments over money. If spending is a problem in your relationship, then it's time to make serious changes or risk losing the love that's so important to you. Do You Have Arguments over Your Spending? There are plenty of things to argue about in relationships today. Most couples don't need any help finding a few meaty bones of contention. However, arguments over money and the financial foundation of the relationship and/or family tend to be some of the weightiest arguments couples today can have. Before you head on over to Divorce Court or book your stay at Heartbreak Hotel, however, it's a good idea to try a few simply strategies to keep your arguments over spending from becoming harbingers of doom for your relationship.
1) Focus on a Solution to Your Spending Dilemma. Instead of feeling guilty, angry, or putout; seek solutions that leave you both feeling as though your voice is being heard and your needs are being met. The key is to come up with those solutions together.
2) Create a Family Budget. Whether yours is a family of two or there are children involved in the relationship, there needs to be a budget that covers everyone as much as possible and leaves everyone with a little money to spend on whatever floats your boat. The secret to success is to keep the purchases small so they can continue and avoid purchases that will unseat the budget for necessities within the month.
3) Keep Separate Accounts. It's one thing to have a joint account for the monthly bills. However, both of you need private money to spend. The best way to do this is to have both of you contributing to the monthly bills and savings from your own accounts and then each of you having a little bit left over at the end of the bills to devote to your own pleasure.
4) Get Help if Spending is Becoming too Big to Handle on Your Own. Some spending issues are simply symptoms of a bigger overall problem. It could be compulsive spending or even a shopping addiction that fills a very real emotional void. If spending is beginning to cause problems with other relationships in your life, then it's time to get help so you can move on to a more normal life than you've experienced in the past. Spending can be a real problem for relationships -- especially if it's ignored. The problem with spending becoming a problem is that it will never get fixed if it isn't seen for the problem that it is and addressed as a problem and not a minor annoyance.
The number one cause of breakups and divorces around the world isn't what most people think it is. It isn't infidelity, in spite of the high number of people in relationships admitting to cheating. Instead, it is arguments over money. If spending is a problem in your relationship, then it's time to make serious changes or risk losing the love that's so important to you. Do You Have Arguments over Your Spending? There are plenty of things to argue about in relationships today. Most couples don't need any help finding a few meaty bones of contention. However, arguments over money and the financial foundation of the relationship and/or family tend to be some of the weightiest arguments couples today can have. Before you head on over to Divorce Court or book your stay at Heartbreak Hotel, however, it's a good idea to try a few simply strategies to keep your arguments over spending from becoming harbingers of doom for your relationship.
1) Focus on a Solution to Your Spending Dilemma. Instead of feeling guilty, angry, or putout; seek solutions that leave you both feeling as though your voice is being heard and your needs are being met. The key is to come up with those solutions together.
2) Create a Family Budget. Whether yours is a family of two or there are children involved in the relationship, there needs to be a budget that covers everyone as much as possible and leaves everyone with a little money to spend on whatever floats your boat. The secret to success is to keep the purchases small so they can continue and avoid purchases that will unseat the budget for necessities within the month.
3) Keep Separate Accounts. It's one thing to have a joint account for the monthly bills. However, both of you need private money to spend. The best way to do this is to have both of you contributing to the monthly bills and savings from your own accounts and then each of you having a little bit left over at the end of the bills to devote to your own pleasure.
4) Get Help if Spending is Becoming too Big to Handle on Your Own. Some spending issues are simply symptoms of a bigger overall problem. It could be compulsive spending or even a shopping addiction that fills a very real emotional void. If spending is beginning to cause problems with other relationships in your life, then it's time to get help so you can move on to a more normal life than you've experienced in the past. Spending can be a real problem for relationships -- especially if it's ignored. The problem with spending becoming a problem is that it will never get fixed if it isn't seen for the problem that it is and addressed as a problem and not a minor annoyance.
Signs She's Thinking About Leaving and How to Make Her Love You Again
No man wants to entertain the possibility that the object of his affections is considering walking away. However, it's a worry that comes into most relationships at one point or another. Before you jump the gun though, and make assumptions that simply aren't true, it's a good idea to explore these signs she's got leaving on her mind and what you can do to make her love you again. She's Working Extra Hours According to a recent Daily Mail UK article, a wife who's suddenly working extra hours, may be thinking about leaving. Many women often see extra hours of work as a type of insurance that they'll be financially able to survive the burden of single living when they do leave the relationship. Ironically, the extra hours worked in the office, did not equate to a more equitable share of household duties, responsibilities, and childrearing. What can you do to make her love you again if she's working late? Perhaps now is the time to roll out the red carpet and show her what she'll be missing if she does walk away. While you don't have to do it all, make her feel that her extra hours are noticed and that you appreciate the effort she's making on behalf of the family. Pitch in around the house a little bit. Offer her a "night off" during the week. Or simply offer her a back massage - no strings attached (unless she makes the first move). Little things are often what makes or breaks a marriage. Make them work in your favor for a change. She's Stopped Nagging While most men initially want to shot joyous expressions from the mountaintops, if your wife suddenly stops nagging, it may not be good news for your marriage. The average male hates few things more than he hates being nagged. It's like getting a running dialog of how you're not measuring up to your wife's expectations. It leaves you feeling angry and small (and not at all inclined to do the deed being requested -- EVER). Most of the time, you even tune out the nagging completely. If it sounds like your wife's about to start nagging her monologue begins to take on the intonations of the teacher from Charlie Brown cartoons. So it may even take you a while to notice that she's stopped asking/nagging you to do anything. Once you do, you may feel a moment of relief and even excitement that she's finally gotten the message. The problem with that though, is that most of the time it isn't the message you wanted her to get. Quite often, for women, the decision to quit "nagging" is one that's only made once she's given up on rescuing the relationship. It means that she's not going to try anymore. It's a good sign that leaving is very much on her mind. What can you do when this is the case? You might have to do something totally out of character to win your wife's affection once again. You need to start by talking to each other. She feels unimportant to you because you're not taking an interest in the things she asks you to do. You feel "put upon" or put down by her because she keeps asking you to do something you do not want to do. Somewhere in the middle is a solution that will work for both of you. But, no one is going to find it if you keep ignoring the problem that's ripping your marriage to shreds. Sometimes the answers aren't as easy as making her fall in love with you again. Love, after all, isn't always the problem in divorce or breakups. The key is to have those conversations before things get out of hand and leaving is a card she's thinking about playing.
No man wants to entertain the possibility that the object of his affections is considering walking away. However, it's a worry that comes into most relationships at one point or another. Before you jump the gun though, and make assumptions that simply aren't true, it's a good idea to explore these signs she's got leaving on her mind and what you can do to make her love you again. She's Working Extra Hours According to a recent Daily Mail UK article, a wife who's suddenly working extra hours, may be thinking about leaving. Many women often see extra hours of work as a type of insurance that they'll be financially able to survive the burden of single living when they do leave the relationship. Ironically, the extra hours worked in the office, did not equate to a more equitable share of household duties, responsibilities, and childrearing. What can you do to make her love you again if she's working late? Perhaps now is the time to roll out the red carpet and show her what she'll be missing if she does walk away. While you don't have to do it all, make her feel that her extra hours are noticed and that you appreciate the effort she's making on behalf of the family. Pitch in around the house a little bit. Offer her a "night off" during the week. Or simply offer her a back massage - no strings attached (unless she makes the first move). Little things are often what makes or breaks a marriage. Make them work in your favor for a change. She's Stopped Nagging While most men initially want to shot joyous expressions from the mountaintops, if your wife suddenly stops nagging, it may not be good news for your marriage. The average male hates few things more than he hates being nagged. It's like getting a running dialog of how you're not measuring up to your wife's expectations. It leaves you feeling angry and small (and not at all inclined to do the deed being requested -- EVER). Most of the time, you even tune out the nagging completely. If it sounds like your wife's about to start nagging her monologue begins to take on the intonations of the teacher from Charlie Brown cartoons. So it may even take you a while to notice that she's stopped asking/nagging you to do anything. Once you do, you may feel a moment of relief and even excitement that she's finally gotten the message. The problem with that though, is that most of the time it isn't the message you wanted her to get. Quite often, for women, the decision to quit "nagging" is one that's only made once she's given up on rescuing the relationship. It means that she's not going to try anymore. It's a good sign that leaving is very much on her mind. What can you do when this is the case? You might have to do something totally out of character to win your wife's affection once again. You need to start by talking to each other. She feels unimportant to you because you're not taking an interest in the things she asks you to do. You feel "put upon" or put down by her because she keeps asking you to do something you do not want to do. Somewhere in the middle is a solution that will work for both of you. But, no one is going to find it if you keep ignoring the problem that's ripping your marriage to shreds. Sometimes the answers aren't as easy as making her fall in love with you again. Love, after all, isn't always the problem in divorce or breakups. The key is to have those conversations before things get out of hand and leaving is a card she's thinking about playing.
Are You Making These Disastrous Date Night Mistakes?
Date night can be a highly effective tool for putting a little love back into your relationship. Whether you're going through a bit of a seven-year-itch or on the verge of calling it quits, making the right date night choices can be a huge win for your marriage. Unfortunately, making date night mistakes of monumental proportions, such as those listed below, can spell disaster for your efforts to save your relationship. Spending the Entire Night Discussing Family Problems Date night is all about getting away from the mundane issues troubling the two of you. It's time to turn your focus on each other. Leave the kids, parents, in-laws, and outlaws at home where they belong. You want this to be a genuine "feel good" opportunity. Don't squander it by bringing bad vibes into the evening. Bringing Work Along on Your Date Whether it is in thoughts or in deeds, bringing work on your date night date not only kills the mood, but also breeds resentment. In many marriages, constant work is a problem. Your spouse feels slighted because you always seem to put work before family. When you bring work on your date night that resentment becomes a deep and simmering rage. It's just another nail in the coffin of your relationship in many ways and one that can be easily avoided one night a week. Cancelling Date Night or Rearranging it at the Last Minute Cancelling date nights is a huge no-no. It's the last thing you want to do without a darned good (I mean someone has died or is about to die kind of) reason. Whenever you cancel date night, you're essentially putting whatever reason it was before your marriage. Stuff happens. Sitters quit or cancel and you're left scrambling to find a suitable alternative. It's better to do a little additional scrambling than to deal with the romantic and relationship fallout of a cancellation. The same holds true with rearranging plans at the last minute. Once the sitter is lined up and dinner plans are set for the evening, last-minute rearrangements really upset the applecart doing more harm for the date night cause than good. The bottom line is that if you aren't going to take date night seriously, it's better not to plan to have it at all. Falling into a Date Night Rut Whatever you do, don't do the same thing week after week. It becomes monotonous and routine. This is your opportunity to add a little fun and excitement to your relationship. Don't risk it by going to dinner and a movie week after week. Switch it up some and see what a difference it makes not only in your excitement about having a date night but also in your partner's response to date night. Make a date night "bucket list" of things you'd like to do on date night together and have fun granting each other's date night wishes. Date night can be as exciting or as humdrum as you allow it to be. Make a compact with yourself and one another not to let your date night become a run of the mill experience that's easily taken for granted. Do this and your marriage is sure to be one in which you do not take each other for granted either.
Date night can be a highly effective tool for putting a little love back into your relationship. Whether you're going through a bit of a seven-year-itch or on the verge of calling it quits, making the right date night choices can be a huge win for your marriage. Unfortunately, making date night mistakes of monumental proportions, such as those listed below, can spell disaster for your efforts to save your relationship. Spending the Entire Night Discussing Family Problems Date night is all about getting away from the mundane issues troubling the two of you. It's time to turn your focus on each other. Leave the kids, parents, in-laws, and outlaws at home where they belong. You want this to be a genuine "feel good" opportunity. Don't squander it by bringing bad vibes into the evening. Bringing Work Along on Your Date Whether it is in thoughts or in deeds, bringing work on your date night date not only kills the mood, but also breeds resentment. In many marriages, constant work is a problem. Your spouse feels slighted because you always seem to put work before family. When you bring work on your date night that resentment becomes a deep and simmering rage. It's just another nail in the coffin of your relationship in many ways and one that can be easily avoided one night a week. Cancelling Date Night or Rearranging it at the Last Minute Cancelling date nights is a huge no-no. It's the last thing you want to do without a darned good (I mean someone has died or is about to die kind of) reason. Whenever you cancel date night, you're essentially putting whatever reason it was before your marriage. Stuff happens. Sitters quit or cancel and you're left scrambling to find a suitable alternative. It's better to do a little additional scrambling than to deal with the romantic and relationship fallout of a cancellation. The same holds true with rearranging plans at the last minute. Once the sitter is lined up and dinner plans are set for the evening, last-minute rearrangements really upset the applecart doing more harm for the date night cause than good. The bottom line is that if you aren't going to take date night seriously, it's better not to plan to have it at all. Falling into a Date Night Rut Whatever you do, don't do the same thing week after week. It becomes monotonous and routine. This is your opportunity to add a little fun and excitement to your relationship. Don't risk it by going to dinner and a movie week after week. Switch it up some and see what a difference it makes not only in your excitement about having a date night but also in your partner's response to date night. Make a date night "bucket list" of things you'd like to do on date night together and have fun granting each other's date night wishes. Date night can be as exciting or as humdrum as you allow it to be. Make a compact with yourself and one another not to let your date night become a run of the mill experience that's easily taken for granted. Do this and your marriage is sure to be one in which you do not take each other for granted either.
Food for Love? Libido Lifting Food for Your Next Date Night
Want to try something new and different to turn your traditional date night on its ear? Have you considered a date night filled with foods designed to heighten awareness and boost libido? In any relationship, it can lead to a few truly interesting propositions and, perhaps, more than a few delightful dilemmas. Oysters You don't have to walk around the block too many times before hearing about the widely held believe that oysters have an almost mystical aphrodisiac affect on those who consume them raw. Science has uncovered a wealth of zinc in oysters which actually boosts testosterone making it a potent force, indeed, for the men who consume them.
Consuming oysters raw is necessary for the most powerful benefit though any form is sure to help if your libido is truly lacking these days. Avocados Because of the potency of this particular dish, Spanish priests once forbade parishioners from eating avocados for fear that it would incite lustful thoughts. The large amounts of vitamin B6 and potassium in avocados does make them an excellent food to include in your next libido bringing date night meal -- as they are famous for raising libidos in men and women alike. Chilies It's the capsaicin in chilies that leaves people who consume this spicy little number feeling more than a little burst of natural endorphin - stimulated libido action. Whether you consume them without anything else to water them down or chopped and included in prepared meals, the results are quite impressive.
Chocolate Though most commonly associated with women and romantic feelings, the truth of the matter is that the phenylethylamine in chocolate triggers the production of serotonin and endorphins which are both known to take you happy places. Date night is an important part of any adult relationship. Eating the right foods during your date night can all but ensure you'll get a happy ending for your evening. Use these foods responsibly and make sure you're both sure to be happy with the outcome. The real key, however, is to present these foods in a manner that isn't exactly obvious.
� Create a menu ahead of time.
� Don't provide any of the foods on the list in isolation - make them part of a bigger picture for the evening.
� Have fun playing around with the theme.
� Don't be afraid to try new things for similar results. Once you add these dishes to your date night repertoire, you're sure to find new challenges for creative date night meals and locations. Above all else, date night should be a time for the two of you to relax, unwind, and let your hair down together.
Want to try something new and different to turn your traditional date night on its ear? Have you considered a date night filled with foods designed to heighten awareness and boost libido? In any relationship, it can lead to a few truly interesting propositions and, perhaps, more than a few delightful dilemmas. Oysters You don't have to walk around the block too many times before hearing about the widely held believe that oysters have an almost mystical aphrodisiac affect on those who consume them raw. Science has uncovered a wealth of zinc in oysters which actually boosts testosterone making it a potent force, indeed, for the men who consume them.
Consuming oysters raw is necessary for the most powerful benefit though any form is sure to help if your libido is truly lacking these days. Avocados Because of the potency of this particular dish, Spanish priests once forbade parishioners from eating avocados for fear that it would incite lustful thoughts. The large amounts of vitamin B6 and potassium in avocados does make them an excellent food to include in your next libido bringing date night meal -- as they are famous for raising libidos in men and women alike. Chilies It's the capsaicin in chilies that leaves people who consume this spicy little number feeling more than a little burst of natural endorphin - stimulated libido action. Whether you consume them without anything else to water them down or chopped and included in prepared meals, the results are quite impressive.
Chocolate Though most commonly associated with women and romantic feelings, the truth of the matter is that the phenylethylamine in chocolate triggers the production of serotonin and endorphins which are both known to take you happy places. Date night is an important part of any adult relationship. Eating the right foods during your date night can all but ensure you'll get a happy ending for your evening. Use these foods responsibly and make sure you're both sure to be happy with the outcome. The real key, however, is to present these foods in a manner that isn't exactly obvious.
� Create a menu ahead of time.
� Don't provide any of the foods on the list in isolation - make them part of a bigger picture for the evening.
� Have fun playing around with the theme.
� Don't be afraid to try new things for similar results. Once you add these dishes to your date night repertoire, you're sure to find new challenges for creative date night meals and locations. Above all else, date night should be a time for the two of you to relax, unwind, and let your hair down together.
Reigniting the Romance - How to Make Her Fall in Love With You Again
How often do you wish you could simply turn back the clock and start over with your love? The desire to do so is more prevalent and commonplace than you probably realize. Fortunately, you don't need a time machine, magic carpet, or handy dandy neuralyzer, like the one Tommy Lee Jones used to erase memories in the movie Men in Black, to help your girl fall in love with you all over again. Here are a few tactics you do need to keep in mind, though, if you want your efforts to be successful.
How often do you wish you could simply turn back the clock and start over with your love? The desire to do so is more prevalent and commonplace than you probably realize. Fortunately, you don't need a time machine, magic carpet, or handy dandy neuralyzer, like the one Tommy Lee Jones used to erase memories in the movie Men in Black, to help your girl fall in love with you all over again. Here are a few tactics you do need to keep in mind, though, if you want your efforts to be successful.
- Make it all About Her Now is the time to put your idea of romance on the shelf. When you're working to win her back, you need to go back to the basics and make a concentrated effort to literally sweep her off her feet and back into your arms.
- Revisit your first date. Even if the exact location isn't feasible for the two of you now (distance, time, no longer in business, etc.) try to create a date that gives a nod back to your first days together. It will leave her thinking about happier times and have you both remembering the endearing qualities about each other that made you fall in love in the first place.
- Make Her Laugh After a while, relationships become so serious. We seem to take all the fun out of them. Most women have stated, more than once, that their man's sense of humor was what attracted her to him in the first place. The Levi's or Wrangler's, depending on where you're from, ran a close second. The big point to take away from all this is that laughter is the way to her heart more often than not. If your goal is to win her back, then making her laugh is a great place to begin.
- Romance her Between the Ears Chocolates, flowers, and romantic gestures are all well and good. If you want to set her heart aflutter, however, you're going to have to touch the space between her ears. Yes, it's the brain. It's a scary proposition for many guys, but today's woman is bright, savvy, and one tough cookie.
- Reaching out and touching her heart will only get her attention briefly. If you want to hold onto that attention, you're going to have to give her something to wrap her mind around. It may seem a little hard to do at first, but once you begin practicing these pathways to success, you're sure to find a much better success rating for your efforts to win her back.
Intimacy Challenge - Are You Too Tired to Tango?
It's become such a huge problem across the nation that it's been addressed on the Dr. Oz show and in countless marriage counseling sessions in between. American couples are exhausted to the point they don't even have time to enjoy intimate relations between man and wife. And it's destroying romance in America -- not to mention taking a huge toll on marriages. If your marriage is suffering from a drought of human contact, the good news is that it isn't beyond hope. There are small moves you can start making today that will help you turn your marriage around and find the energy to put on your dancing shoes. Create a Sleep Schedule in Your Home Everyone needs a sleep schedule. The key is to be consistent with the sleep schedule - even on the weekend when many people attempt to make up for the sleep deprivation they've suffered during the week. Getting everyone -- husband, wife, children, and pets on a similar schedule can eliminate the groggy run down feeling that overwhelms just before calling it a night in the evening. It can also help you keep better track of how much sleep you're actually getting. Reprioritize and Learn to Delegate This is especially difficult for women who like to feel they can do it all. The truth of the matter is that it's not all getting done. Things are falling through the cracks and you really don't want your marriage to be that thing that is falling. Ask for help and learn to accept help as it comes. It's not going to be perfect when someone else does it - but that's OK. The other thing to remember is that you need to watch your priorities. If everything and everyone else is coming before your happy home life then something's gotta go. It's not fair to you, your husband, or your marriage to keep things going as they are. Schedule Weekly Intimate Moments It may feel a little strained at first - even a little awkward. But, the odds are good that won't last long. In fact, many couples find that after a couple of weeks of "penciling it in" the spontaneity begins to retune - and the fun. More importantly, the simple process of physical intimacy returns life to your marriage. Yes, there is a drought going on in homes across America. Your home does not have to be one of the unhappy homes it's happening in if you follow these great tips.
It's become such a huge problem across the nation that it's been addressed on the Dr. Oz show and in countless marriage counseling sessions in between. American couples are exhausted to the point they don't even have time to enjoy intimate relations between man and wife. And it's destroying romance in America -- not to mention taking a huge toll on marriages. If your marriage is suffering from a drought of human contact, the good news is that it isn't beyond hope. There are small moves you can start making today that will help you turn your marriage around and find the energy to put on your dancing shoes. Create a Sleep Schedule in Your Home Everyone needs a sleep schedule. The key is to be consistent with the sleep schedule - even on the weekend when many people attempt to make up for the sleep deprivation they've suffered during the week. Getting everyone -- husband, wife, children, and pets on a similar schedule can eliminate the groggy run down feeling that overwhelms just before calling it a night in the evening. It can also help you keep better track of how much sleep you're actually getting. Reprioritize and Learn to Delegate This is especially difficult for women who like to feel they can do it all. The truth of the matter is that it's not all getting done. Things are falling through the cracks and you really don't want your marriage to be that thing that is falling. Ask for help and learn to accept help as it comes. It's not going to be perfect when someone else does it - but that's OK. The other thing to remember is that you need to watch your priorities. If everything and everyone else is coming before your happy home life then something's gotta go. It's not fair to you, your husband, or your marriage to keep things going as they are. Schedule Weekly Intimate Moments It may feel a little strained at first - even a little awkward. But, the odds are good that won't last long. In fact, many couples find that after a couple of weeks of "penciling it in" the spontaneity begins to retune - and the fun. More importantly, the simple process of physical intimacy returns life to your marriage. Yes, there is a drought going on in homes across America. Your home does not have to be one of the unhappy homes it's happening in if you follow these great tips.
What's the Big Deal About Date Night?
In the beginning, most couples have no trouble to sticking with a weekly date night. It's a great way to go out and do fun stuff together -- as a couple. It's time to get out of the house and break the routine a bit. However, time marches on. Children come into the picture. Budgets get strained. Economies tumble. The weekly ritual of date night takes a backseat to diaper duty, PTA meetings, and extra shifts at work. Then the marriage starts to crumble bit by bit. Is all this really the result of no longer having date night? It could be. Date night is more important than many couples realize on the surface. But why is it so important? Date Night Helps You Stay Connected We live in an amazingly connected world. We have laptops, mobile phones, tablet devices, instant messages, Facebook status reports, Twitter feeds and countless other methods to stay connected on-the-go. With all that connectivity, the human connection often gets lost in the mix. People ignore the person sitting across the room in order to connect with someone thousands of miles away they haven't seen in fifteen years. Date night, takes all that away and leaves the two of you alone to connect with one another -- no matter what else is going on in your worlds. Allows You to Spend Time Together as Lovers Date night is about being alone together. More importantly, it's about going out, away from the house (and the responsibilities that live in that house) and spending time together as lovers. It's a change to hold hands, to have adult conversations, and to, dare I say it, FLIRT with one another. It's time to be man and woman rather than MOM and DAD. It's important because it helps you remember why the two of you fell in love in the first place. Forces You to Make Time for Each Other One of the most important things you need to do, for the sake of your marriage, is make time for each other. In putting your family first, which is an admirable quality in any family, it's very important to remember that your spouse if your family too. He or she needs your time just as much as each and every one of your children. Date night, gives you one night, out of seven, to spend time together. It shouldn't be too much to ask -- no matter how busy your lives become. If you really want to maximize the effectiveness of date night, avoid topics of conversation involving school, work, family, and calendars -- unless you're discussing an upcoming romantic getaway that you're both excited about. Date night is your opportunity to rev up the romance engine in your relationship. Don't take it for granted.
In the beginning, most couples have no trouble to sticking with a weekly date night. It's a great way to go out and do fun stuff together -- as a couple. It's time to get out of the house and break the routine a bit. However, time marches on. Children come into the picture. Budgets get strained. Economies tumble. The weekly ritual of date night takes a backseat to diaper duty, PTA meetings, and extra shifts at work. Then the marriage starts to crumble bit by bit. Is all this really the result of no longer having date night? It could be. Date night is more important than many couples realize on the surface. But why is it so important? Date Night Helps You Stay Connected We live in an amazingly connected world. We have laptops, mobile phones, tablet devices, instant messages, Facebook status reports, Twitter feeds and countless other methods to stay connected on-the-go. With all that connectivity, the human connection often gets lost in the mix. People ignore the person sitting across the room in order to connect with someone thousands of miles away they haven't seen in fifteen years. Date night, takes all that away and leaves the two of you alone to connect with one another -- no matter what else is going on in your worlds. Allows You to Spend Time Together as Lovers Date night is about being alone together. More importantly, it's about going out, away from the house (and the responsibilities that live in that house) and spending time together as lovers. It's a change to hold hands, to have adult conversations, and to, dare I say it, FLIRT with one another. It's time to be man and woman rather than MOM and DAD. It's important because it helps you remember why the two of you fell in love in the first place. Forces You to Make Time for Each Other One of the most important things you need to do, for the sake of your marriage, is make time for each other. In putting your family first, which is an admirable quality in any family, it's very important to remember that your spouse if your family too. He or she needs your time just as much as each and every one of your children. Date night, gives you one night, out of seven, to spend time together. It shouldn't be too much to ask -- no matter how busy your lives become. If you really want to maximize the effectiveness of date night, avoid topics of conversation involving school, work, family, and calendars -- unless you're discussing an upcoming romantic getaway that you're both excited about. Date night is your opportunity to rev up the romance engine in your relationship. Don't take it for granted.
Why Doesn't He Love Me Anymore?
The feeling of falling out of love isn't a pleasant one by any stretch of the imagination -- especially when you're on the receiving end. You're left to wonder what went wrong, whether it was your fault, and if there's anything you can do to change things. The good news for you is that most people don't simply turn love on and off like a light switch. It takes time to fall in love -- and to fall out of it. That means he probably isn't quite there yet. And a little bit of love is all you need as a foundation upon which you can build a once in a lifetime kind of love. But, knowing that doesn't fix the problem in your relationship. What you need is a plan of action that's sure to SOLVE the problem. Your immediate problem is that he isn't FEELING the love right now. The solution is simple. You need to make him feel the love again. Of course, from where you sit, reading this, it doesn't seem all that simple. Consider making these moves to see what a difference they make in how he feels about you. 1) Start Dressing to Impress While the best relationships aren't based on looks alone, it never hurts for your man to see you making an effort to look good for him. Wear the clothes he likes to see you wearing, fix up your hair, apply a few strategic cosmetics, etc. You may even consider professional waxing services. These moves won't necessarily have him feeling the love for you again, but they will certainly get his attention. Once you have his attention, it's time to make your next move. 2) Change the Way YOU Show Your Love for Him Men and women express love and feel loved in different ways. While stereotypes aren't always helpful, it does help to understand that there are fundamental differences. Men feel and show love through physical acts. Not all of them are sexual. Sometimes, it's little things like making sure the oil is changed in your car or mowing the lawn week after week. At other times it is more personal, such as a protective hand on your back in public, a steadying arm as you climb steps together, or intimate acts that are the ultimate expression of love for the average man. Women express love differently. The expressions are often verbal or service oriented. Taking care of the household, preparing meals, and other domestic tasks are prime examples. Women are also much more likely to use words to express your love. If you want him to feel love you must watch the words you use at all times. Words that criticize, confront, or disrespect tear down the love he's building while words that edify, respect, and show deep admiration and loyalty build up the love. Physical acts, such as touching and other acts of service are also excellent choices because they show him YOUR love in HIS language. Keep these things in mind and you'll never need to ask, "Why doesn't he love me anymore?" again. He'll be feeling the love and showing you more than a little love in return.
The feeling of falling out of love isn't a pleasant one by any stretch of the imagination -- especially when you're on the receiving end. You're left to wonder what went wrong, whether it was your fault, and if there's anything you can do to change things. The good news for you is that most people don't simply turn love on and off like a light switch. It takes time to fall in love -- and to fall out of it. That means he probably isn't quite there yet. And a little bit of love is all you need as a foundation upon which you can build a once in a lifetime kind of love. But, knowing that doesn't fix the problem in your relationship. What you need is a plan of action that's sure to SOLVE the problem. Your immediate problem is that he isn't FEELING the love right now. The solution is simple. You need to make him feel the love again. Of course, from where you sit, reading this, it doesn't seem all that simple. Consider making these moves to see what a difference they make in how he feels about you. 1) Start Dressing to Impress While the best relationships aren't based on looks alone, it never hurts for your man to see you making an effort to look good for him. Wear the clothes he likes to see you wearing, fix up your hair, apply a few strategic cosmetics, etc. You may even consider professional waxing services. These moves won't necessarily have him feeling the love for you again, but they will certainly get his attention. Once you have his attention, it's time to make your next move. 2) Change the Way YOU Show Your Love for Him Men and women express love and feel loved in different ways. While stereotypes aren't always helpful, it does help to understand that there are fundamental differences. Men feel and show love through physical acts. Not all of them are sexual. Sometimes, it's little things like making sure the oil is changed in your car or mowing the lawn week after week. At other times it is more personal, such as a protective hand on your back in public, a steadying arm as you climb steps together, or intimate acts that are the ultimate expression of love for the average man. Women express love differently. The expressions are often verbal or service oriented. Taking care of the household, preparing meals, and other domestic tasks are prime examples. Women are also much more likely to use words to express your love. If you want him to feel love you must watch the words you use at all times. Words that criticize, confront, or disrespect tear down the love he's building while words that edify, respect, and show deep admiration and loyalty build up the love. Physical acts, such as touching and other acts of service are also excellent choices because they show him YOUR love in HIS language. Keep these things in mind and you'll never need to ask, "Why doesn't he love me anymore?" again. He'll be feeling the love and showing you more than a little love in return.
The Lost Art of Flirting - How to Drive Him Wild With or Without Words
When you first started dating, flirting came easily. Almost every tilt of your head, bat of your eyelashes, and word you said was some form of flirtation. Whether your intention was sheer playfulness or some form of subtle seduction, flirting was the language of the day - and what an effective language it was! Over time, you left your flirting ways behind. Whether it was the fact that you felt confident in your "catch" or you simply thought you'd moved beyond the playful beginnings into a more serious and "adult" relationship. I saw "Hogwash!" You don't have to give up playfulness and fun simply because you're now married. You may have caught the prize you sought but that doesn't mean you don't need to work a little bit to keep his interest and attention. Subtle and not-so-subtle flirting reminds your husband that you are still interested, makes him feel desired by you, and reminds you just how much fun being in a relationship can be. The more marriage feels like fun, the less it will feel like work. It may have been a while since you've flirted with your husband. Here are a few reminders about old tricks, and perhaps a few new tricks, that will drive him wild. * Leave naughty little notes in his lunch box. It will perk up his day and let him know that you're thinking of him. * Send sexy text messages to him while he's at work. There's nothing that will have him raring to go when he gets home faster than little teasers throughout the day of what's to come when he gets home. * Dress to impress on your next date night. You know what he likes. Give it to him. It costs you nothing and lets him know you still think he's worth impressing. * Play footsie with him! Sounds a little silly but it can really get his engine going. * Smack his bottom. It worked for Austin Powers! More importantly, it tells him you're still noticing. * Touch him. Even non-sexual touching is a huge turn on for guys. Remember when you first started dating? You went for any excuse just to touch him. Whether it was touching his arm, laying your head on his shoulders, or just holding hands you couldn't get enough of touching him. Over time, things cooled down and touch became perfunctory. Make it fun and flirty all over again. * Tell him what you want - what you really, really want in a place where he'll have to wait to get it. It will be on his mind the entire time and the anticipation will light real fireworks when you're finally able to make good on that whispered promise. Flirting might be a lost art, but you can bring it back into your marriage. If you're going through a bit of a dry spell, this may very well be the cure. At the very least, it will return an old dynamic to your relationship that may yield surprising results.
When you first started dating, flirting came easily. Almost every tilt of your head, bat of your eyelashes, and word you said was some form of flirtation. Whether your intention was sheer playfulness or some form of subtle seduction, flirting was the language of the day - and what an effective language it was! Over time, you left your flirting ways behind. Whether it was the fact that you felt confident in your "catch" or you simply thought you'd moved beyond the playful beginnings into a more serious and "adult" relationship. I saw "Hogwash!" You don't have to give up playfulness and fun simply because you're now married. You may have caught the prize you sought but that doesn't mean you don't need to work a little bit to keep his interest and attention. Subtle and not-so-subtle flirting reminds your husband that you are still interested, makes him feel desired by you, and reminds you just how much fun being in a relationship can be. The more marriage feels like fun, the less it will feel like work. It may have been a while since you've flirted with your husband. Here are a few reminders about old tricks, and perhaps a few new tricks, that will drive him wild. * Leave naughty little notes in his lunch box. It will perk up his day and let him know that you're thinking of him. * Send sexy text messages to him while he's at work. There's nothing that will have him raring to go when he gets home faster than little teasers throughout the day of what's to come when he gets home. * Dress to impress on your next date night. You know what he likes. Give it to him. It costs you nothing and lets him know you still think he's worth impressing. * Play footsie with him! Sounds a little silly but it can really get his engine going. * Smack his bottom. It worked for Austin Powers! More importantly, it tells him you're still noticing. * Touch him. Even non-sexual touching is a huge turn on for guys. Remember when you first started dating? You went for any excuse just to touch him. Whether it was touching his arm, laying your head on his shoulders, or just holding hands you couldn't get enough of touching him. Over time, things cooled down and touch became perfunctory. Make it fun and flirty all over again. * Tell him what you want - what you really, really want in a place where he'll have to wait to get it. It will be on his mind the entire time and the anticipation will light real fireworks when you're finally able to make good on that whispered promise. Flirting might be a lost art, but you can bring it back into your marriage. If you're going through a bit of a dry spell, this may very well be the cure. At the very least, it will return an old dynamic to your relationship that may yield surprising results.
4 Ways to Take Date Night from Ho-Hum to Oh-So-Much-Fun!
Date night is quickly becoming an American institution when it comes to putting the spark back into fading marriages or simply keeping the home fires from burning out altogether. The problem is, many couples are forgetting what date night is really about. Instead of taking the initiative and seeking out new and exciting date night ideas, many couples fall back on a few old standards. Once in a while, these standard date night activities are excellent. However, when they become the normal routine for your weekly date night, it takes the fun and excitement out of date night completely. So, what should you do to fill the love of your life with excitement about date night? Try these things on for size. 1) Take Turns Planning Your Date Night Activities If one person is left doing all the planning, things can get old really quick. More importantly, it doesn't place all the pressure on the shoulders of one of you. The ultimate benefit though is that you'll be able to try new things you may never experience if one person does all the planning. Some date night events will be hits, others will be misses. The key is that both of you plan with mutual enjoyment of the evening in mind. 2) Avoid Repeats Within a Two-Month Period This doesn't mean that you shouldn't eat at the same restaurant for two months, though that would certainly be nice as well. What it does mean is that you should avoid repeating the same date experience (dinner and a movie, date night in, picnic theme, etc.) in two months. It may be a bit of a challenge but if you flex your creative muscles it's totally doable. The most it will mean is nine weeks before you can repeat a date night theme. 3) Make it Fun! Date night doesn't have to take place at night and it doesn't, necessarily, have to involve acting like grownups. There are plenty of fun ways to bring on a little romantic fun for the two of you. * Race car experience * Tandem sky diving * Bungee jumping * Paint ball * Laser tag * Bowling * Roller skating/blading * Snow skiing * Ice skiing * Ice skating * Rock climbing * Minor league sporting event * College sporting event * Swimming * Boating * Tubing * Water skiing * Jet skiing * Parasailing * Four wheeler riding * Horseback riding * Music concert * Wine tasting/tours * Pottery/Painting These are all excellent date night choices that don't cost an outrageous amount of money and can be a ton of fun for both of you to experience. You don't have to go out of the way, or even off the beaten path to find great date night experiences you're sure to cherish. With so many exciting options available, date night should never be boring again. Don't forget to look back in your own dating history to dates that really stand out as fun for both of you. It's always good to recreate special experiences for celebrations such as birthdays and anniversaries too.
Date night is quickly becoming an American institution when it comes to putting the spark back into fading marriages or simply keeping the home fires from burning out altogether. The problem is, many couples are forgetting what date night is really about. Instead of taking the initiative and seeking out new and exciting date night ideas, many couples fall back on a few old standards. Once in a while, these standard date night activities are excellent. However, when they become the normal routine for your weekly date night, it takes the fun and excitement out of date night completely. So, what should you do to fill the love of your life with excitement about date night? Try these things on for size. 1) Take Turns Planning Your Date Night Activities If one person is left doing all the planning, things can get old really quick. More importantly, it doesn't place all the pressure on the shoulders of one of you. The ultimate benefit though is that you'll be able to try new things you may never experience if one person does all the planning. Some date night events will be hits, others will be misses. The key is that both of you plan with mutual enjoyment of the evening in mind. 2) Avoid Repeats Within a Two-Month Period This doesn't mean that you shouldn't eat at the same restaurant for two months, though that would certainly be nice as well. What it does mean is that you should avoid repeating the same date experience (dinner and a movie, date night in, picnic theme, etc.) in two months. It may be a bit of a challenge but if you flex your creative muscles it's totally doable. The most it will mean is nine weeks before you can repeat a date night theme. 3) Make it Fun! Date night doesn't have to take place at night and it doesn't, necessarily, have to involve acting like grownups. There are plenty of fun ways to bring on a little romantic fun for the two of you. * Race car experience * Tandem sky diving * Bungee jumping * Paint ball * Laser tag * Bowling * Roller skating/blading * Snow skiing * Ice skiing * Ice skating * Rock climbing * Minor league sporting event * College sporting event * Swimming * Boating * Tubing * Water skiing * Jet skiing * Parasailing * Four wheeler riding * Horseback riding * Music concert * Wine tasting/tours * Pottery/Painting These are all excellent date night choices that don't cost an outrageous amount of money and can be a ton of fun for both of you to experience. You don't have to go out of the way, or even off the beaten path to find great date night experiences you're sure to cherish. With so many exciting options available, date night should never be boring again. Don't forget to look back in your own dating history to dates that really stand out as fun for both of you. It's always good to recreate special experiences for celebrations such as birthdays and anniversaries too.
Is It Really My Fault He Cheated?
If you've watched the news lately you've probably noticed that there's been quite a stir over who is at fault when men cheat. A prominent televangelist has suggested that part of the responsibility should be placed on the shoulder of the woman for not making the effort to overcome genetic predispositions. While the men are dogs argument doesn't fly in all corners of the Web-o-verse, it's probably a good idea to sit back and speculate over whether there could be some truth in the idea. Now, I'm not advocating that men cheat or that women blindly forgive men who cheat. I'm not even saying that it's a woman's fault her man cheats. I am not even saying that the most diligent efforts by women will prevent cheating completely. I can definitely say that doing these two things will definitely help keep his attention focused firmly on you and make other woman almost invisible to him. Want to know what they are? Get His Engine Running Slip a reason for him to come home at night into his briefcase or lunchbox each day as he sets off for work. Whether its a snapshot, a steamy love note, or just a code word you make up together, give him a reason to come racing home after he punches out at work for the day. And then? Live up to the promise you made in the morning. No matter how many things happen during your day to drag you down, you MUST make good on that promise so that he'll know what he's likely to get each and every time you drop one of your lunchbox/briefcase hints. Show Him Your Adoration Among men who cheat, the overwhelming reason why has nothing to do with the physical appearance of the other woman. In fact, most men who cheat have said they do not find the other woman more attractive than their wives. Shes not thinner, leggier, bustier, and she doesn't have a bigger butt (sorry Mix-A-Lot). It's not about looks at all. The real reason men cheat on their wives, and can't really help themselves, despite the risks it involves has to do with one thing. She makes him feel adored, flattered, admired, and respected. She doesn't roll her eyes at his corny jokes. She clings to his arms and laughs. She makes the first move. She shows interest. She goes after him and makes him feel like THE MAN. And THAT is his Kryptonite. How do you beat this? It may seem like a tall order, but if you work really hard and think back to the early days when you dated, you should remember all the things you used to tell him that you don't tell him today. You brought out the best in him by showing him that you believed he was the best and he wants that feeling back. He's trying to recapture that when he cheats. Give him that feeling at home and give it to him often and he'll never have a single reason to stray. These two things don't require six spinning classes a day. They don't require a second job. And, they don't involve major personality changes. Most of these things are the sorts of things you did when you were first together and in love. Put them to work today and never worry about a cheating husband again. Is it your fault he cheated? No, but you CAN make a difference going forward.
If you've watched the news lately you've probably noticed that there's been quite a stir over who is at fault when men cheat. A prominent televangelist has suggested that part of the responsibility should be placed on the shoulder of the woman for not making the effort to overcome genetic predispositions. While the men are dogs argument doesn't fly in all corners of the Web-o-verse, it's probably a good idea to sit back and speculate over whether there could be some truth in the idea. Now, I'm not advocating that men cheat or that women blindly forgive men who cheat. I'm not even saying that it's a woman's fault her man cheats. I am not even saying that the most diligent efforts by women will prevent cheating completely. I can definitely say that doing these two things will definitely help keep his attention focused firmly on you and make other woman almost invisible to him. Want to know what they are? Get His Engine Running Slip a reason for him to come home at night into his briefcase or lunchbox each day as he sets off for work. Whether its a snapshot, a steamy love note, or just a code word you make up together, give him a reason to come racing home after he punches out at work for the day. And then? Live up to the promise you made in the morning. No matter how many things happen during your day to drag you down, you MUST make good on that promise so that he'll know what he's likely to get each and every time you drop one of your lunchbox/briefcase hints. Show Him Your Adoration Among men who cheat, the overwhelming reason why has nothing to do with the physical appearance of the other woman. In fact, most men who cheat have said they do not find the other woman more attractive than their wives. Shes not thinner, leggier, bustier, and she doesn't have a bigger butt (sorry Mix-A-Lot). It's not about looks at all. The real reason men cheat on their wives, and can't really help themselves, despite the risks it involves has to do with one thing. She makes him feel adored, flattered, admired, and respected. She doesn't roll her eyes at his corny jokes. She clings to his arms and laughs. She makes the first move. She shows interest. She goes after him and makes him feel like THE MAN. And THAT is his Kryptonite. How do you beat this? It may seem like a tall order, but if you work really hard and think back to the early days when you dated, you should remember all the things you used to tell him that you don't tell him today. You brought out the best in him by showing him that you believed he was the best and he wants that feeling back. He's trying to recapture that when he cheats. Give him that feeling at home and give it to him often and he'll never have a single reason to stray. These two things don't require six spinning classes a day. They don't require a second job. And, they don't involve major personality changes. Most of these things are the sorts of things you did when you were first together and in love. Put them to work today and never worry about a cheating husband again. Is it your fault he cheated? No, but you CAN make a difference going forward.
How Do I Forgive My Husband for Cheating?
This is a question that woman have been asking themselves for centuries. It's only in recent decades that divorce has really been an option for women whether their husbands cheated or not. While it's hard to believe in silver linings right now, the bright and shining one for you is that marriages survive cheating spouses all the time. When you look at the number of relationships with cheating partners, the numbers are truly staggering. Statisticbrain.com says that 41 percent of marriages have one or both spouses admitting to infidelity (emotional or physical). The really shocking news though is that, for perhaps the first time in history, men and women are cheating on almost an equal scale. Fifty-seven percent of men admit to cheating in any relationship they've had and 54 percent of women admit to cheating. While the numbers aren't completely promising, 31 percent of marriages survive (and last) after the affair has been discovered. When you consider that 50 percent of all marriages end in divorce, those numbers are a little more promising. But, how does this help you find forgiveness for the man who broke the vows you made together? Allow Yourself Time to Process the Blow This isn't a light confession like drinking milk out of the carton or forgetting to take the garbage to the road on trash pickup day. This is a big deal. You need to allow yourself the time, and space, you need to really process what has happened, how you feel about what has happened, and what YOU want to happen next. Don't allow yourself to be bullied, cajoled, pushed, or drug into a situation you're not emotionally prepared to dive into. It's too much and could put you into meltdown mode where you withdraw from everything and everyone. That's not good for anyone or your marriage. Be Selfish for a Little While There's nothing wrong with watching him work his way back into your good graces. While it's not cool to allow him to keep trying to win you over if you know you're going to leave, there's nothing wrong with dragging it out a little bit to watch him pay some sort of penance. It won't make up for the pain. It certainly won't take the pain away. But there is some sort of sadistic pleasure you can derive from it, and well the Universe owes you a small dark moment or two in wake of a blow like this. Forgive Yourself First Women have been taught to blame themselves when their men stray. Even in the so-called enlightened world we live in today, other women, prominent clergy, and countless politicians drive home the idea that the woman is the one at fault when men stray. Stop swimming in blame and guilt over actions that weren't your own. You can't own his actions any more than he can own yours. He did the cheating. But once you forgive yourself for his cheating, you'll find that it's much easier to forgive him for doing the cheating. The path to forgiveness in infidelity is one of the most painful and surprising paths to walk. When you follow these steps, you'll find that it's easier to walk (though by no means easy) than you would have ever thought possible otherwise.
This is a question that woman have been asking themselves for centuries. It's only in recent decades that divorce has really been an option for women whether their husbands cheated or not. While it's hard to believe in silver linings right now, the bright and shining one for you is that marriages survive cheating spouses all the time. When you look at the number of relationships with cheating partners, the numbers are truly staggering. Statisticbrain.com says that 41 percent of marriages have one or both spouses admitting to infidelity (emotional or physical). The really shocking news though is that, for perhaps the first time in history, men and women are cheating on almost an equal scale. Fifty-seven percent of men admit to cheating in any relationship they've had and 54 percent of women admit to cheating. While the numbers aren't completely promising, 31 percent of marriages survive (and last) after the affair has been discovered. When you consider that 50 percent of all marriages end in divorce, those numbers are a little more promising. But, how does this help you find forgiveness for the man who broke the vows you made together? Allow Yourself Time to Process the Blow This isn't a light confession like drinking milk out of the carton or forgetting to take the garbage to the road on trash pickup day. This is a big deal. You need to allow yourself the time, and space, you need to really process what has happened, how you feel about what has happened, and what YOU want to happen next. Don't allow yourself to be bullied, cajoled, pushed, or drug into a situation you're not emotionally prepared to dive into. It's too much and could put you into meltdown mode where you withdraw from everything and everyone. That's not good for anyone or your marriage. Be Selfish for a Little While There's nothing wrong with watching him work his way back into your good graces. While it's not cool to allow him to keep trying to win you over if you know you're going to leave, there's nothing wrong with dragging it out a little bit to watch him pay some sort of penance. It won't make up for the pain. It certainly won't take the pain away. But there is some sort of sadistic pleasure you can derive from it, and well the Universe owes you a small dark moment or two in wake of a blow like this. Forgive Yourself First Women have been taught to blame themselves when their men stray. Even in the so-called enlightened world we live in today, other women, prominent clergy, and countless politicians drive home the idea that the woman is the one at fault when men stray. Stop swimming in blame and guilt over actions that weren't your own. You can't own his actions any more than he can own yours. He did the cheating. But once you forgive yourself for his cheating, you'll find that it's much easier to forgive him for doing the cheating. The path to forgiveness in infidelity is one of the most painful and surprising paths to walk. When you follow these steps, you'll find that it's easier to walk (though by no means easy) than you would have ever thought possible otherwise.
Will She Be Able to Forgive Me for Cheating?
Cheating is a hard thing for the average woman to forgive. It's not just the breaking of the marriage vows that is difficult for her to forgive. No matter what she says, there's more to it than that. Women are complicated creatures. There's no denying that. Their reason for having such a difficult time forgiving affairs is surprisingly uncomplicated and straightforward. Your affair hits her where she hurts most her confidence. It leaves her shaken, vulnerable, and insecure in your love for her and everything she believed to be true about your love for her. The key is to overcome that shaken confidence. It's only once you're able to restore the lost confidence that she'll be able to move on and finally forgive you for cheating. Sound like a tall order? You better believe it can be. But, that doesn't mean it's impossible. In fact, quite the opposite is true. You can do a few little things each day that will, slowly but surely, restore her faith in you, your love, and your relationship. Where do you begin? Start with simple words affirming your love for her. Tell her as often as she'll hear it. Don't beg. Don't berate. Don't offer excuses. Simply let her know she is loved by you. Show her how you really feel. Small gestures often matter most. Write her little love notes. Serve breakfast in bed. Give her a night (or morning) off by taking over her typical duties for that night and morning. Start a weekly date night and do something bigger, better, and more than dinner and a movie. Make her a priority in your life. You lead a busy life. You're often busy providing for your family. You think you're doing the right thing. Then, one day, you discover that your family feels like you've abandoned them. You're hurt. They're hurt. Everyone's hurt. Take time to appreciate what you nave now rather than using it up preparing for a future that's so uncertain. If you haven't already, end the affair. There's no future for your marriage and no forgiveness that is going to come as long as the affair continues. End it. Then focus your full, undivided attention on repairing your marriage once and for all. These little things might not seem like a big deal. They don't involve pricey purchases, expensive gifts, or hours of endless (and mostly useless) groveling. They're as straightforward and shockingly effective for gaining her forgiveness.
Cheating is a hard thing for the average woman to forgive. It's not just the breaking of the marriage vows that is difficult for her to forgive. No matter what she says, there's more to it than that. Women are complicated creatures. There's no denying that. Their reason for having such a difficult time forgiving affairs is surprisingly uncomplicated and straightforward. Your affair hits her where she hurts most her confidence. It leaves her shaken, vulnerable, and insecure in your love for her and everything she believed to be true about your love for her. The key is to overcome that shaken confidence. It's only once you're able to restore the lost confidence that she'll be able to move on and finally forgive you for cheating. Sound like a tall order? You better believe it can be. But, that doesn't mean it's impossible. In fact, quite the opposite is true. You can do a few little things each day that will, slowly but surely, restore her faith in you, your love, and your relationship. Where do you begin? Start with simple words affirming your love for her. Tell her as often as she'll hear it. Don't beg. Don't berate. Don't offer excuses. Simply let her know she is loved by you. Show her how you really feel. Small gestures often matter most. Write her little love notes. Serve breakfast in bed. Give her a night (or morning) off by taking over her typical duties for that night and morning. Start a weekly date night and do something bigger, better, and more than dinner and a movie. Make her a priority in your life. You lead a busy life. You're often busy providing for your family. You think you're doing the right thing. Then, one day, you discover that your family feels like you've abandoned them. You're hurt. They're hurt. Everyone's hurt. Take time to appreciate what you nave now rather than using it up preparing for a future that's so uncertain. If you haven't already, end the affair. There's no future for your marriage and no forgiveness that is going to come as long as the affair continues. End it. Then focus your full, undivided attention on repairing your marriage once and for all. These little things might not seem like a big deal. They don't involve pricey purchases, expensive gifts, or hours of endless (and mostly useless) groveling. They're as straightforward and shockingly effective for gaining her forgiveness.
Great Date Night Movies for Romance
While movies are not always the perfect date night choice, sometimes, when life is hectic, the DVD player and take-out from your favorite restaurant hits the spot quite nicely. Of course, you have to have the right date night movies to set the proper tone. Rather than going out and getting the latest Redbox blockbuster, consider these old standards instead. Dangerous Liaisons What movie offers more for a date night movie fest. Seduction. Intrigue. Scandal. It's all in there and more. The acting is superb. The film is engrossing. The time period is far removed from the every day. It's a great escape film the two of you can enjoy together - time and time again if necessary. Aliens You'll have a hard time finding a better date night movie than one that will have her literally jumping into your lap. This film has all that and more. Adrenaline is a standard while watching the film that is well acted and features characters that are engrossing to say the least. After the film is over you can have a lot of fun staying up all night together because, really, who can sleep after watching that? The Tourist Johnny Depp and Angelina Jolie. Need anyone say more? This movie is filled with twists, turns, and misdirection. Once you know how the story ends, it's worth going back and watching again to look for hints and clues. Great date night fun for a film that's hard to grow tired of. The Blindside This one is a "bring the box of Kleenex" film. While the story itself isn't sad, it is, at the very least poignant. This makes it a sure hit with ladies for date night and the combination of Sandra Bullock and football make it a great choice for the guys as well. The fact that it's based on a true story makes it all the more touching and a great night to have her feeling emotional and romantic. Mr. and Mrs. Smith Another great Angelina Jolie flick, this one also stars Brad Pitt. The movie itself is action packed and full of not-so-passive aggression. If only all couples could work out their marital difficulties so easily. It certainly will help you both appreciate the normalcy of your lives together. Date night will never be a complete and total dud if you load up your DVD with any one of these great date night movie. Just remember that the purpose of date night is to spend time together so choose movies you're both likely to have at least some interest in watching.
While movies are not always the perfect date night choice, sometimes, when life is hectic, the DVD player and take-out from your favorite restaurant hits the spot quite nicely. Of course, you have to have the right date night movies to set the proper tone. Rather than going out and getting the latest Redbox blockbuster, consider these old standards instead. Dangerous Liaisons What movie offers more for a date night movie fest. Seduction. Intrigue. Scandal. It's all in there and more. The acting is superb. The film is engrossing. The time period is far removed from the every day. It's a great escape film the two of you can enjoy together - time and time again if necessary. Aliens You'll have a hard time finding a better date night movie than one that will have her literally jumping into your lap. This film has all that and more. Adrenaline is a standard while watching the film that is well acted and features characters that are engrossing to say the least. After the film is over you can have a lot of fun staying up all night together because, really, who can sleep after watching that? The Tourist Johnny Depp and Angelina Jolie. Need anyone say more? This movie is filled with twists, turns, and misdirection. Once you know how the story ends, it's worth going back and watching again to look for hints and clues. Great date night fun for a film that's hard to grow tired of. The Blindside This one is a "bring the box of Kleenex" film. While the story itself isn't sad, it is, at the very least poignant. This makes it a sure hit with ladies for date night and the combination of Sandra Bullock and football make it a great choice for the guys as well. The fact that it's based on a true story makes it all the more touching and a great night to have her feeling emotional and romantic. Mr. and Mrs. Smith Another great Angelina Jolie flick, this one also stars Brad Pitt. The movie itself is action packed and full of not-so-passive aggression. If only all couples could work out their marital difficulties so easily. It certainly will help you both appreciate the normalcy of your lives together. Date night will never be a complete and total dud if you load up your DVD with any one of these great date night movie. Just remember that the purpose of date night is to spend time together so choose movies you're both likely to have at least some interest in watching.
Three Ways to Really Get Your Husband's Attention
Getting his attention was once an easy thing to do. In the early days of your marriage, you seemed to have it all the time. There were even times when you secretly wished you could have a little less of it. Lately, however, things have changed and he seems more content to work in the garage, absorb himself in video games, or assume his position as king of the Lazy-boy with remote in hand than to pay attention to you. What went wrong? And, what can you do to get his attention all over again? The good news for you, is that all relationships have their ups and downs. It's a normal cycle. The better news, is that it's not beyond your control to take the upper hand and make sure you have his attention now, and any other time when other issues seem to be horning in on your time with your husband. 1) Feed him. Debi Gutierrez is a very funny comedian who understands the male psyche pretty well. She believes there are only two things you can do to really get his attention and make him happy. Feeding him is one of those things. It doesn't take much imagination to come up with the other. The thing is, it isn't all about whether or not you offer him food. It's about the kind of food you offer him. Men are lusty creatures. It shows in their appetite for you as well as their appetite for food. You can't feed him the things that leave you feeling deprived for dinner and expect him to be happy with the results. Give him real food made for his appetites and see what a difference it makes in the attention he pays you. 2) Compliment him. Pay him a compliment. Tell him how much the little things he does really mean to you. Let him know that you appreciate the way he takes care of you and your family. Tell him how much he means to you. Women are often credited with being the sentimental ones in relationships. You often forget that men need to hear these words of affirmation and appreciation just as much as you need to hear them. Not only does this set an amazing example for him to follow but it also lets him know how you really feel about the things he does for you and for your marriage. 3) Make yourself available to him. While we do not live in the day and age of wives submitting to their husbands in the literal sense, there is still something that touches a man above and beyond all else for you to make the first move. For you to be the one offering him what he wants from you. Make the first move. If it doesn't get his attention at first, make your offer a little bolder. Most men do not need to be asked twice though. Getting his attention is the easy part. Keeping it, despite all the distractions that impact relationships today is where the road gets a little rockier. Remember these tips whenever his attention starts to stray again and you're sure to keep your marriage on the right path now and down the road.
Getting his attention was once an easy thing to do. In the early days of your marriage, you seemed to have it all the time. There were even times when you secretly wished you could have a little less of it. Lately, however, things have changed and he seems more content to work in the garage, absorb himself in video games, or assume his position as king of the Lazy-boy with remote in hand than to pay attention to you. What went wrong? And, what can you do to get his attention all over again? The good news for you, is that all relationships have their ups and downs. It's a normal cycle. The better news, is that it's not beyond your control to take the upper hand and make sure you have his attention now, and any other time when other issues seem to be horning in on your time with your husband. 1) Feed him. Debi Gutierrez is a very funny comedian who understands the male psyche pretty well. She believes there are only two things you can do to really get his attention and make him happy. Feeding him is one of those things. It doesn't take much imagination to come up with the other. The thing is, it isn't all about whether or not you offer him food. It's about the kind of food you offer him. Men are lusty creatures. It shows in their appetite for you as well as their appetite for food. You can't feed him the things that leave you feeling deprived for dinner and expect him to be happy with the results. Give him real food made for his appetites and see what a difference it makes in the attention he pays you. 2) Compliment him. Pay him a compliment. Tell him how much the little things he does really mean to you. Let him know that you appreciate the way he takes care of you and your family. Tell him how much he means to you. Women are often credited with being the sentimental ones in relationships. You often forget that men need to hear these words of affirmation and appreciation just as much as you need to hear them. Not only does this set an amazing example for him to follow but it also lets him know how you really feel about the things he does for you and for your marriage. 3) Make yourself available to him. While we do not live in the day and age of wives submitting to their husbands in the literal sense, there is still something that touches a man above and beyond all else for you to make the first move. For you to be the one offering him what he wants from you. Make the first move. If it doesn't get his attention at first, make your offer a little bolder. Most men do not need to be asked twice though. Getting his attention is the easy part. Keeping it, despite all the distractions that impact relationships today is where the road gets a little rockier. Remember these tips whenever his attention starts to stray again and you're sure to keep your marriage on the right path now and down the road.
6 Strategic Moves You Need to Make to Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back
All's fair in love and war. Believe me, when love is on the skids, it certainly feels like war. We all know that the army with superior forces and sound strategies is the most certain of victors in any war. The same holds true when the war is for the heart of someone who has taken her heart back. These strategic moves are sure to improve your odds. 1) Give her space. It may sound counter-intuitive at the moment, but it's important to give her a little breathing room to figure out what it is that she really wants. Give it to her. 2) Be absent from her life. She'll never realize how much you mean to her or how much she misses having you around if you're always there for her when she needs you. This is not the way to win her back. It's rewarding her by giving her all the best of you without requiring the same from her in return. That's not how successful relationships work. 3) Make her come to you. Don't call, text, email, visit, etc. Don't go to her. Instead, wait. Then, make her come to you. Let her be the one who sees that breaking up was a mistake. Let her figure out just how much she really does miss having you in her life. Let her come to you. 4) Don't be overly eager. In fact, work very hard on your composure. Practice what you'll say if you run into her. Work on the words, the phrases, and the overall message you want to send. Make sure she knows you're doing just fine without her in your life. 5) Show the world you haven't fallen apart. Women like strong men, no matter what they tell you. It may be that you have a girl who enjoys your sensitive side, but thousands of years of history show that women are attracted to men of strength, especially in times of adversity. Don't fall apart. More importantly, don't let the word spread if you do fall apart after the initial breakup. 6) Stop pretending to be someone you're not in hopes of getting her back. Any ground you gain by pretending will be lost quickly once you begin dating again. You can't pretend forever. She'll eventually see through the exterior. If you want to make real, lasting changes, that's great. Don't pretend, however, that you've changed core things about yourself just for the sake of winning her back. It doesn't serve either of you in the end and can set you back even further in your efforts to win her heart all over again. Come up with a plan before you make your next move, if you haven't made on already. If you've already made a few mistakes trying to get her back, take this time to step back and come up with a strategy before making your next move. Remember these strategies to help you get her back as well.
All's fair in love and war. Believe me, when love is on the skids, it certainly feels like war. We all know that the army with superior forces and sound strategies is the most certain of victors in any war. The same holds true when the war is for the heart of someone who has taken her heart back. These strategic moves are sure to improve your odds. 1) Give her space. It may sound counter-intuitive at the moment, but it's important to give her a little breathing room to figure out what it is that she really wants. Give it to her. 2) Be absent from her life. She'll never realize how much you mean to her or how much she misses having you around if you're always there for her when she needs you. This is not the way to win her back. It's rewarding her by giving her all the best of you without requiring the same from her in return. That's not how successful relationships work. 3) Make her come to you. Don't call, text, email, visit, etc. Don't go to her. Instead, wait. Then, make her come to you. Let her be the one who sees that breaking up was a mistake. Let her figure out just how much she really does miss having you in her life. Let her come to you. 4) Don't be overly eager. In fact, work very hard on your composure. Practice what you'll say if you run into her. Work on the words, the phrases, and the overall message you want to send. Make sure she knows you're doing just fine without her in your life. 5) Show the world you haven't fallen apart. Women like strong men, no matter what they tell you. It may be that you have a girl who enjoys your sensitive side, but thousands of years of history show that women are attracted to men of strength, especially in times of adversity. Don't fall apart. More importantly, don't let the word spread if you do fall apart after the initial breakup. 6) Stop pretending to be someone you're not in hopes of getting her back. Any ground you gain by pretending will be lost quickly once you begin dating again. You can't pretend forever. She'll eventually see through the exterior. If you want to make real, lasting changes, that's great. Don't pretend, however, that you've changed core things about yourself just for the sake of winning her back. It doesn't serve either of you in the end and can set you back even further in your efforts to win her heart all over again. Come up with a plan before you make your next move, if you haven't made on already. If you've already made a few mistakes trying to get her back, take this time to step back and come up with a strategy before making your next move. Remember these strategies to help you get her back as well.
Are You Willing to Set Him Free in Order to Get Him Back?
Sometimes, in your quest to get your ex back, you have to think outside the box to get the results you really want. When your heart is breaking, when you're in the midst of soul-wrenching suffering that often accompanies an unwanted breakup, all you can think about is making the pain stop.
Simple thought processes work best in times of great emotional distress. Breakup equals broken heart. Makeup equals a world without pain.
If only it really were that simple.
You see, getting him back is only half the battle. Things weren't good for everyone in the relationship or he wouldn't have found it quite so simple to walk away. Most people don't leave unless they really feel there's something missing.
Understand, that I'm not saying it's YOUR fault he left. Nothing could be further from the truth. Guys are notoriously terrible at even admitting they have needs at all in a relationship, much less at asking for those needs to be met. In your defense, you cannot possibly meet needs you don't even know exist.
You're no more of a mind reader than he is, after all. Just as he expects you to understand that, he cannot read your mind. You must make it clear to him, when you do get back together, that you cannot read his mind either.
So what's this about letting him go?
Many girls in your shoes didn't read past that point. The idea of letting him go is simply too terrible or tragic to even contemplate right now. But, what if that was the almost certain road to take for winning him back?
What if it could more than double your chances for success in your efforts to get him back? When you follow the right plan, and completely give him up as part of the plan, at least as far as he and the rest of the world is concerned, your chances of success increase exponentially.
Why?
Because when you stop trying so hard to win him back, the real you begins to shine through. That's when he's most likely to remember all the reasons he fell in love with you in the first place. He doesn't want you trying to please and placate -- at least not when it means you're pretending to be someone he knows you're not.
Go back to the beginning if you want to move forward. When you get there, leave all the excess baggage behind and truly start with a clean slate. See what a difference that makes to your future and how well you're rewarded by giving up on getting him back and focusing on a completely new beginning instead.
*The Magic of Making Up - See all the tips and strategies for winning your Ex back in this book. It helped me a lot to appreciate my marriage and my husband before my world shattered. See book here.
Sometimes, in your quest to get your ex back, you have to think outside the box to get the results you really want. When your heart is breaking, when you're in the midst of soul-wrenching suffering that often accompanies an unwanted breakup, all you can think about is making the pain stop.
Simple thought processes work best in times of great emotional distress. Breakup equals broken heart. Makeup equals a world without pain.
If only it really were that simple.
You see, getting him back is only half the battle. Things weren't good for everyone in the relationship or he wouldn't have found it quite so simple to walk away. Most people don't leave unless they really feel there's something missing.
Understand, that I'm not saying it's YOUR fault he left. Nothing could be further from the truth. Guys are notoriously terrible at even admitting they have needs at all in a relationship, much less at asking for those needs to be met. In your defense, you cannot possibly meet needs you don't even know exist.
You're no more of a mind reader than he is, after all. Just as he expects you to understand that, he cannot read your mind. You must make it clear to him, when you do get back together, that you cannot read his mind either.
So what's this about letting him go?
Many girls in your shoes didn't read past that point. The idea of letting him go is simply too terrible or tragic to even contemplate right now. But, what if that was the almost certain road to take for winning him back?
What if it could more than double your chances for success in your efforts to get him back? When you follow the right plan, and completely give him up as part of the plan, at least as far as he and the rest of the world is concerned, your chances of success increase exponentially.
Why?
Because when you stop trying so hard to win him back, the real you begins to shine through. That's when he's most likely to remember all the reasons he fell in love with you in the first place. He doesn't want you trying to please and placate -- at least not when it means you're pretending to be someone he knows you're not.
Go back to the beginning if you want to move forward. When you get there, leave all the excess baggage behind and truly start with a clean slate. See what a difference that makes to your future and how well you're rewarded by giving up on getting him back and focusing on a completely new beginning instead.
*The Magic of Making Up - See all the tips and strategies for winning your Ex back in this book. It helped me a lot to appreciate my marriage and my husband before my world shattered. See book here.
Signs Your Girlfriend is Getting Ready to Walk Away
Relationships aren't always easy. Signals get crossed. You take each other for granted. Life sometimes gets in the way. Sometimes this leads to one or both of you being unhappy and unsure of what move to make next. While communicating these feelings would be an excellent start, life doesn't always work out that way. Sometimes, she just starts making plans to leave. But what are the signs your girl's got leaving on her mind?
She Stops Making Plans for the Future
At least, she stops making plans for the future with you. She's stopped sharing them with you. She's stopped asking what's on the calendar and trying to talk you into going to family events, planning for vacations, or anything else along those lines. She's even stopped talking about future living arrangements. That's a huge red flag that all isn't right in paradise.
Girls are forever making plans for the future. In fact, women begin planning their wedding days in kindergarten right down to the dress, flowers, cake, and party favors. It's a big deal. When she stops hinting at wedding bells down the road, it means her mind is moving on. Her body will follow soon.
She's Suddenly Started Working Longer Hours or Looking for a New Job
Women get worried about their ability to support themselves right about the time they plan to leave a relationship. This is especially true if you're living together and/or if there are children involved. Financial independence will be extremely important to her as it may determine her ability to support herself and her child or children.
The extra hours at work help her set aside a bit of a nest egg so that she doesn't walk away from the relationship with nothing. A new job can represent higher income and opportunities for advancement in the future.
She's Spending Less and Your Joint Savings aren't Growing
The money is going somewhere. Either she's socking it away somewhere or she's spending it on someone (or something else). Unless you have a birthday coming up or Christmas is close, this is typically cause for concern.
The key, in each of these situations, however, is not to panic. She may be thinking about leaving, but she hasn't left yet. You still have time to turn the tides in your favor. You just need the proper roadmap to follow that all but guarantees your success. Follow the right map and you'll find your way back into her heart and good graces in no time.
*The Magic of Making Up - See all the tips and strategies for winning your Ex back in this book. It helped me a lot to appreciate my marriage and my husband before my world shattered. See book here.
Relationships aren't always easy. Signals get crossed. You take each other for granted. Life sometimes gets in the way. Sometimes this leads to one or both of you being unhappy and unsure of what move to make next. While communicating these feelings would be an excellent start, life doesn't always work out that way. Sometimes, she just starts making plans to leave. But what are the signs your girl's got leaving on her mind?
She Stops Making Plans for the Future
At least, she stops making plans for the future with you. She's stopped sharing them with you. She's stopped asking what's on the calendar and trying to talk you into going to family events, planning for vacations, or anything else along those lines. She's even stopped talking about future living arrangements. That's a huge red flag that all isn't right in paradise.
Girls are forever making plans for the future. In fact, women begin planning their wedding days in kindergarten right down to the dress, flowers, cake, and party favors. It's a big deal. When she stops hinting at wedding bells down the road, it means her mind is moving on. Her body will follow soon.
She's Suddenly Started Working Longer Hours or Looking for a New Job
Women get worried about their ability to support themselves right about the time they plan to leave a relationship. This is especially true if you're living together and/or if there are children involved. Financial independence will be extremely important to her as it may determine her ability to support herself and her child or children.
The extra hours at work help her set aside a bit of a nest egg so that she doesn't walk away from the relationship with nothing. A new job can represent higher income and opportunities for advancement in the future.
She's Spending Less and Your Joint Savings aren't Growing
The money is going somewhere. Either she's socking it away somewhere or she's spending it on someone (or something else). Unless you have a birthday coming up or Christmas is close, this is typically cause for concern.
The key, in each of these situations, however, is not to panic. She may be thinking about leaving, but she hasn't left yet. You still have time to turn the tides in your favor. You just need the proper roadmap to follow that all but guarantees your success. Follow the right map and you'll find your way back into her heart and good graces in no time.
*The Magic of Making Up - See all the tips and strategies for winning your Ex back in this book. It helped me a lot to appreciate my marriage and my husband before my world shattered. See book here.
Four Simple Things You Can Do To Make Your Girl Feel Special
Successful relationships aren't always about perfect matches, fewer fights, or zero conflicts in the relationships. They're often about how you make each other FEEL. If you feel disrespected or scorned by your wife, you're not going to feel good about your relationship. You're not going to want to stay.
Women often FEEL, whether or not they really are, as though they're taken for granted, inferior, or second place in the lives of the men they love. Those are the moments when they cry into their pillows because they feel as though no matter how much they give, work, and try, it's never enough. That's why it's so important for you to do simple things like these to make her FEEL as special as she is to you.
1) Leave her silly little love notes. I bet you did this when you first started dating. How long has it been since you've done it? Not text messages or emails. Hand-written little love notes. On sticky notes, bathroom mirrors, or even cocktail napkins. They don't have to be deep and profound. They just need to exist.
2) Give her fun awards. Let her know how much you appreciate the things she does around the house (cleaning, cooking, taking care of the children) by coming home with bars of chocolate, gourmet coffee drinks, blue ribbons, or tiny tokens of appreciation. You don't have to spend a lot of money to make her feel special. It's rarely about the money and always about how you make her feel.
3) Become "Mr. Mom" one night a week. It sounds like a huge imposition. It may even go against your grain. However, the rewards of giving her this one night a week off, will be well worth your sacrifice. Give her one night to relax, rest, and not be the one making all the household decisions for an evening. If Michael Keaton could do it back in the 1980's, you've got this!
4) Tell her how you really feel. I know, the strong silent type is what women want. It's true. However, she doesn't want you quiet all the time. She may never acknowledge to you how much it means to her to hear these words, but they matter to her -- a LOT! If you want to make her heart swell with pride in a job well done and to fill her head with the knowledge that she is loved and appreciated by you, the number one way to make the message clear is in your own words.
Making your girl feel like she's queen of your world doesn't require you to go out of your way or to rob the biggest bank in town. These simple things will do the trick in grand fashion. This time, the tears she cries will be tears of happiness and contentment -- not tears of frustration and futility.
*The Magic of Making Up - See all the tips and strategies for winning your Ex back in this book. It helped me a lot to appreciate my marriage and my husband before my world shattered. See book here.
Successful relationships aren't always about perfect matches, fewer fights, or zero conflicts in the relationships. They're often about how you make each other FEEL. If you feel disrespected or scorned by your wife, you're not going to feel good about your relationship. You're not going to want to stay.
Women often FEEL, whether or not they really are, as though they're taken for granted, inferior, or second place in the lives of the men they love. Those are the moments when they cry into their pillows because they feel as though no matter how much they give, work, and try, it's never enough. That's why it's so important for you to do simple things like these to make her FEEL as special as she is to you.
1) Leave her silly little love notes. I bet you did this when you first started dating. How long has it been since you've done it? Not text messages or emails. Hand-written little love notes. On sticky notes, bathroom mirrors, or even cocktail napkins. They don't have to be deep and profound. They just need to exist.
2) Give her fun awards. Let her know how much you appreciate the things she does around the house (cleaning, cooking, taking care of the children) by coming home with bars of chocolate, gourmet coffee drinks, blue ribbons, or tiny tokens of appreciation. You don't have to spend a lot of money to make her feel special. It's rarely about the money and always about how you make her feel.
3) Become "Mr. Mom" one night a week. It sounds like a huge imposition. It may even go against your grain. However, the rewards of giving her this one night a week off, will be well worth your sacrifice. Give her one night to relax, rest, and not be the one making all the household decisions for an evening. If Michael Keaton could do it back in the 1980's, you've got this!
4) Tell her how you really feel. I know, the strong silent type is what women want. It's true. However, she doesn't want you quiet all the time. She may never acknowledge to you how much it means to her to hear these words, but they matter to her -- a LOT! If you want to make her heart swell with pride in a job well done and to fill her head with the knowledge that she is loved and appreciated by you, the number one way to make the message clear is in your own words.
Making your girl feel like she's queen of your world doesn't require you to go out of your way or to rob the biggest bank in town. These simple things will do the trick in grand fashion. This time, the tears she cries will be tears of happiness and contentment -- not tears of frustration and futility.
*The Magic of Making Up - See all the tips and strategies for winning your Ex back in this book. It helped me a lot to appreciate my marriage and my husband before my world shattered. See book here.
Four Ways To Make Your Man Feel Like He's the King of Your Castle
It doesn't take long for most women to figure out the dynamics of your relationship. Your man feels best, when he feels as though he's large and in charge around the house. Perhaps it's a respect issue. Perhaps it's simply something that's been ingrained in the mail psyche since the Cro-Magnon phase. Regardless, the need still exists for men to at least believe they rule the roost. Here are a few things you can do to make your man feel like he's definitely the king of your castle.
1) Give him your loyalty. Loyalty is perhaps the most important thing your man expects from you. Don't sit around with girlfriends talking bad about him. Lift him up in your words, thoughts, and actions. It will make a world of difference for you and for him.
2) Show him your respect. Respect is just as important for the average man as loyalty. When you respect him, you're always trying to earn his respect in return. It's a state of mind thing. However, when you SHOW him your respect, you're giving him the exact type of affirmation of your love he needs in order to remain confident in your love for him and his role in the family.
3) Stop NAGGING. He hates his more than you know. Not only does it make him FEEL disrespected, it also shows him that you're not respecting the many things he does to keep your family in ship-shape. Nagging, in his eyes, is simply pointing out the ways you think he's failing or letting you down. Most of the time, it makes him that much more determined not to do the thing you want accomplished and it creates a vicious cycle of unhappiness all around. Find another way to accomplish your goals if asking once isn't getting it done. It will save your relationship a great deal of conflict and will spare ill will on both sides of the equation.
4) Tell him how you feel. How long has it been since you've made the effort to tell your man how glad you are that he's in your life. Let him know how many ways he makes your life better. Inform him of just how much you admire and respect him. Flatter him. Boost his ego. And remind him just how happy you are to be part of his life -- and how glad you are that he is part of yours.
You don't have to debase yourself in order to let him be king of your castle. You don't have to grovel at his feet or bow down before him. You don't even have to do the Wayne's World "We're not worthy!" montage. You just have to do these four things and he'll never need to wonder about his place in your heart and mind.
*The Magic of Making Up - See all the tips and strategies for winning your Ex back in this book. It helped me a lot to appreciate my marriage and my husband before my world shattered. See book here.
It doesn't take long for most women to figure out the dynamics of your relationship. Your man feels best, when he feels as though he's large and in charge around the house. Perhaps it's a respect issue. Perhaps it's simply something that's been ingrained in the mail psyche since the Cro-Magnon phase. Regardless, the need still exists for men to at least believe they rule the roost. Here are a few things you can do to make your man feel like he's definitely the king of your castle.
1) Give him your loyalty. Loyalty is perhaps the most important thing your man expects from you. Don't sit around with girlfriends talking bad about him. Lift him up in your words, thoughts, and actions. It will make a world of difference for you and for him.
2) Show him your respect. Respect is just as important for the average man as loyalty. When you respect him, you're always trying to earn his respect in return. It's a state of mind thing. However, when you SHOW him your respect, you're giving him the exact type of affirmation of your love he needs in order to remain confident in your love for him and his role in the family.
3) Stop NAGGING. He hates his more than you know. Not only does it make him FEEL disrespected, it also shows him that you're not respecting the many things he does to keep your family in ship-shape. Nagging, in his eyes, is simply pointing out the ways you think he's failing or letting you down. Most of the time, it makes him that much more determined not to do the thing you want accomplished and it creates a vicious cycle of unhappiness all around. Find another way to accomplish your goals if asking once isn't getting it done. It will save your relationship a great deal of conflict and will spare ill will on both sides of the equation.
4) Tell him how you feel. How long has it been since you've made the effort to tell your man how glad you are that he's in your life. Let him know how many ways he makes your life better. Inform him of just how much you admire and respect him. Flatter him. Boost his ego. And remind him just how happy you are to be part of his life -- and how glad you are that he is part of yours.
You don't have to debase yourself in order to let him be king of your castle. You don't have to grovel at his feet or bow down before him. You don't even have to do the Wayne's World "We're not worthy!" montage. You just have to do these four things and he'll never need to wonder about his place in your heart and mind.
*The Magic of Making Up - See all the tips and strategies for winning your Ex back in this book. It helped me a lot to appreciate my marriage and my husband before my world shattered. See book here.
How Badly Do You Really Want to Get Your Ex Back?
In the first few days following a breakup, getting your ex back is probably all you can think about. It becomes a mantra playing repeatedly in your mind. Depending on how long and deeply involved the relationship may have been, it may be the only thing helping you hold onto a little bit of sanity as your mind comes to terms with what your heart has already discovered -- the pain of loss.
It's important to allow a little time to pass before you make your move and try to get your ex back. Why is that? Because sometimes it's best to gain a little perspective and distance from the heartache you're feeling right now.
Distance makes it possible for your ex to forgive hurtful words and deeds, forget pain, and begin to remember the pleasure of being with you. Allowing time for some of the more pleasant aspects of your relationship to resurface in the heart and mind of your ex buys the time you really need to make a positive impression. Unfortunately, you have to want it really bad in order to do this. It takes a lot of discipline to hold off long enough for the good memories to come back to life.
That's the problem most people in your shoes have, though. Finding the patience and strength of will it takes to really let your ex go and wait. Wait, however long it takes, for your ex to come back to you.
However, there are things you can do to fill your time so that it doesn't feel like you're waiting around forever for your ex to come back to his or her senses and realize what a catch you really are.
1) Get in shape. Whether you wish you were a little more muscular or want to lose a few extra pounds, there's no time like the present to get started. Not only will this leave a more attractive package when your ex does come calling, it's a great way to boost your confidence, restore your self-esteem, and fill the hours that are no longer devoted to spending time with your ex.
2) Go back to school. Even if you aren't going back for a degree. Many colleges are participating in the open culture of study these days. You can take classes from Harvard, Yale, and other top universities throughout the country free online. The knowledge you gain from these courses is invaluable even if you don't gain a degree. Some programs offer certificates of completion that can help provide you with greater upward mobility in your chosen profession.
3) Focus on activities and interests that lift you up. We all have areas in our lives where we'd like to see improvement. We all want to be better than we are in some ways. Now is the perfect chance for you to focus on being a better YOU!
While you're busy doing all these things, your ex is busy missing you. More importantly, he or she is hearing, from others, about all the positive changes you're making. Your ex is sure to want to be a part of the improvements going on in your life. Now is the time when your ex is most likely to come calling. Do you know what you're going to say when your ex does?
*The Magic of Making Up - See all the tips and strategies for winning your Ex back in this book. It helped me a lot to appreciate my marriage and my husband before my world shattered. See book here.
In the first few days following a breakup, getting your ex back is probably all you can think about. It becomes a mantra playing repeatedly in your mind. Depending on how long and deeply involved the relationship may have been, it may be the only thing helping you hold onto a little bit of sanity as your mind comes to terms with what your heart has already discovered -- the pain of loss.
It's important to allow a little time to pass before you make your move and try to get your ex back. Why is that? Because sometimes it's best to gain a little perspective and distance from the heartache you're feeling right now.
Distance makes it possible for your ex to forgive hurtful words and deeds, forget pain, and begin to remember the pleasure of being with you. Allowing time for some of the more pleasant aspects of your relationship to resurface in the heart and mind of your ex buys the time you really need to make a positive impression. Unfortunately, you have to want it really bad in order to do this. It takes a lot of discipline to hold off long enough for the good memories to come back to life.
That's the problem most people in your shoes have, though. Finding the patience and strength of will it takes to really let your ex go and wait. Wait, however long it takes, for your ex to come back to you.
However, there are things you can do to fill your time so that it doesn't feel like you're waiting around forever for your ex to come back to his or her senses and realize what a catch you really are.
1) Get in shape. Whether you wish you were a little more muscular or want to lose a few extra pounds, there's no time like the present to get started. Not only will this leave a more attractive package when your ex does come calling, it's a great way to boost your confidence, restore your self-esteem, and fill the hours that are no longer devoted to spending time with your ex.
2) Go back to school. Even if you aren't going back for a degree. Many colleges are participating in the open culture of study these days. You can take classes from Harvard, Yale, and other top universities throughout the country free online. The knowledge you gain from these courses is invaluable even if you don't gain a degree. Some programs offer certificates of completion that can help provide you with greater upward mobility in your chosen profession.
3) Focus on activities and interests that lift you up. We all have areas in our lives where we'd like to see improvement. We all want to be better than we are in some ways. Now is the perfect chance for you to focus on being a better YOU!
While you're busy doing all these things, your ex is busy missing you. More importantly, he or she is hearing, from others, about all the positive changes you're making. Your ex is sure to want to be a part of the improvements going on in your life. Now is the time when your ex is most likely to come calling. Do you know what you're going to say when your ex does?
*The Magic of Making Up - See all the tips and strategies for winning your Ex back in this book. It helped me a lot to appreciate my marriage and my husband before my world shattered. See book here.
Silly Mistakes Derailing Your Efforts to Get Your Ex Back
How long have you been working to get your ex back without seeing any real results? Many people in your shoes are surprised to learn that it isn't what you aren't doing that's holding you back. It's the things you are doing, that are working against you. Here are a few common roadblocks that could be derailing your trip back to relationship bliss.
You are Proud to be there for Your Ex
It's a noble idea. Really it is. However, if you're there for a friendly ear, a comforting shoulder, or a fast perk-me-up whenever your ex needs it from you, your ex isn't really missing out on the benefits of being in a relationship with you. It's getting all the fringe benefits of a loving relationship without putting in the work to keep things going. Instead, you're going to have to let your ex deal with the stings life delivers sometimes without the solace of your comforting presence.
You Keep Trying
I know this one goes against everything your heart (and to some degree your head) is screaming at your right now. However, in times of crisis, reason isn't even in charge of your head either. Reason rarely rules the heart. Why should a time of emotional distress be any different? One person can't do it all in the relationship.
Pat Benatar had it right when she sang, "Love is a Battlefield." Love is war and the winners, in love, have a plan. The tactical advantage goes to the one who retreats, assesses the situation impartially, and plans a strategic assault with victory in mind. You had better believe love is war. And you need to take a little time to assess your current position, the hostility of the terrain, and the best path to victory before you go in with guns (or in this case Cupid's arrows) blazing.
You Attack from a Position of Weakness
Fans of NCIS know that team leader Gibbs is always telling his team not to apologize. According to Gibbs, apologizing is a sign of weakness. While that's a philosophical debate for the most part, when you're trying to save your relationship or get your ex back, it is often viewed, the leaving party, as a sign of weakness. You don't want to make your move from an inferior position. Instead, lead with your strengths.
Show your power. Establish your dominance. Come in swinging from a position of strength and don't ever let your ex see you sweat. There's nothing sexier, to members of the opposite sex, than confidence. Be confident in yourself, your contribution to the relationship, and the fact that it's just not time for this relationship to end.
Above all else, don't make a move until you know what you're going to do next. Have a contingency plan in place for a favorable outcome as well as a less-than-favorable outcome so that you don't come across as desperate if you don't win this round. Your mind needs to remain focused on the long-term prize of getting your ex back and every plan needs to ultimately lead you down that happy road.
*The Magic of Making Up - See all the tips and strategies for winning your Ex back in this book. It helped me a lot to appreciate my marriage and my husband before my world shattered. See book here.
How long have you been working to get your ex back without seeing any real results? Many people in your shoes are surprised to learn that it isn't what you aren't doing that's holding you back. It's the things you are doing, that are working against you. Here are a few common roadblocks that could be derailing your trip back to relationship bliss.
You are Proud to be there for Your Ex
It's a noble idea. Really it is. However, if you're there for a friendly ear, a comforting shoulder, or a fast perk-me-up whenever your ex needs it from you, your ex isn't really missing out on the benefits of being in a relationship with you. It's getting all the fringe benefits of a loving relationship without putting in the work to keep things going. Instead, you're going to have to let your ex deal with the stings life delivers sometimes without the solace of your comforting presence.
You Keep Trying
I know this one goes against everything your heart (and to some degree your head) is screaming at your right now. However, in times of crisis, reason isn't even in charge of your head either. Reason rarely rules the heart. Why should a time of emotional distress be any different? One person can't do it all in the relationship.
Pat Benatar had it right when she sang, "Love is a Battlefield." Love is war and the winners, in love, have a plan. The tactical advantage goes to the one who retreats, assesses the situation impartially, and plans a strategic assault with victory in mind. You had better believe love is war. And you need to take a little time to assess your current position, the hostility of the terrain, and the best path to victory before you go in with guns (or in this case Cupid's arrows) blazing.
You Attack from a Position of Weakness
Fans of NCIS know that team leader Gibbs is always telling his team not to apologize. According to Gibbs, apologizing is a sign of weakness. While that's a philosophical debate for the most part, when you're trying to save your relationship or get your ex back, it is often viewed, the leaving party, as a sign of weakness. You don't want to make your move from an inferior position. Instead, lead with your strengths.
Show your power. Establish your dominance. Come in swinging from a position of strength and don't ever let your ex see you sweat. There's nothing sexier, to members of the opposite sex, than confidence. Be confident in yourself, your contribution to the relationship, and the fact that it's just not time for this relationship to end.
Above all else, don't make a move until you know what you're going to do next. Have a contingency plan in place for a favorable outcome as well as a less-than-favorable outcome so that you don't come across as desperate if you don't win this round. Your mind needs to remain focused on the long-term prize of getting your ex back and every plan needs to ultimately lead you down that happy road.
*The Magic of Making Up - See all the tips and strategies for winning your Ex back in this book. It helped me a lot to appreciate my marriage and my husband before my world shattered. See book here.
Want to Get Your Ex Back? Try This!
Movies and romance novels make it look so easy to get your ex back. We all understand that love goes wrong sometimes. But, if you really want to turn the tide for your relationship, you might have to switch up tactics a little bit and try something new and different. Don't let cheesy romantic movies and novels that are fantasy filled ruin your chances. Instead, take a moment to sneak a peek at real advice that gets real results.
Walk Away - And Don't Look Back
I'm not saying you shouldn't entertain the idea of getting back together with your ex or that you should even give up hope that you'll be able to accomplish your mission. However, you want to make your ex believe that you've given up -- that you aren't trying to fix things anymore.
Why?
Because that's really the only way your ex is going to recognize what it means to be alone. As long as you keep coming around or trying to make things right, your ex has the pleasure of your company and the certainty of your support. Walk away. Go through the motions of moving on with your life and let your ex see what life is like without you in it. More importantly, let your ex wonder who you're spending your time with now.
Start Investing in Yourself
During a relationship, people often spend so much time focused on the other person that you ignore the things you want or need. Now is the perfect opportunity to put a little time and attention to fulfilling your own wishes and needs whether they are educational, financial, career-related, or physical in nature. Put yourself first for a change and enjoy a return on investment that involves self-confidence, self-value, and a renewed sense of self-worth.
What most people don't realize is that this is a critical component of getting an ex back. When you start taking care of yourself and putting yourself first for a change, there are often visible changes the world will notice. Word travels quickly in some circles and your ex, unless he or she has relocated to a rock on Mars, is likely to hear about all the changes going on with you. Your ex is bound to be curious and curiosity usually works in your favor at times like these.
But, don't take the call, answer the email, or agree to meet your ex until you have a solid strategy in place to make the most of this meeting. Without the right plan in hand, you can undo all your hard work in one single phone call, conversation, or meeting.
*The Magic of Making Up - See all the tips and strategies for winning your Ex back in this book. It helped me a lot to appreciate my marriage and my husband before my world shattered. See book here.
Movies and romance novels make it look so easy to get your ex back. We all understand that love goes wrong sometimes. But, if you really want to turn the tide for your relationship, you might have to switch up tactics a little bit and try something new and different. Don't let cheesy romantic movies and novels that are fantasy filled ruin your chances. Instead, take a moment to sneak a peek at real advice that gets real results.
Walk Away - And Don't Look Back
I'm not saying you shouldn't entertain the idea of getting back together with your ex or that you should even give up hope that you'll be able to accomplish your mission. However, you want to make your ex believe that you've given up -- that you aren't trying to fix things anymore.
Why?
Because that's really the only way your ex is going to recognize what it means to be alone. As long as you keep coming around or trying to make things right, your ex has the pleasure of your company and the certainty of your support. Walk away. Go through the motions of moving on with your life and let your ex see what life is like without you in it. More importantly, let your ex wonder who you're spending your time with now.
Start Investing in Yourself
During a relationship, people often spend so much time focused on the other person that you ignore the things you want or need. Now is the perfect opportunity to put a little time and attention to fulfilling your own wishes and needs whether they are educational, financial, career-related, or physical in nature. Put yourself first for a change and enjoy a return on investment that involves self-confidence, self-value, and a renewed sense of self-worth.
What most people don't realize is that this is a critical component of getting an ex back. When you start taking care of yourself and putting yourself first for a change, there are often visible changes the world will notice. Word travels quickly in some circles and your ex, unless he or she has relocated to a rock on Mars, is likely to hear about all the changes going on with you. Your ex is bound to be curious and curiosity usually works in your favor at times like these.
But, don't take the call, answer the email, or agree to meet your ex until you have a solid strategy in place to make the most of this meeting. Without the right plan in hand, you can undo all your hard work in one single phone call, conversation, or meeting.
*The Magic of Making Up - See all the tips and strategies for winning your Ex back in this book. It helped me a lot to appreciate my marriage and my husband before my world shattered. See book here.
Five First-Date Friendly Venues - For the Second Time Around
When you're getting back together with your ex there's a fine line that you must walk between doing things the old way and making a fresh start together. Sometimes it's best to part with the old completely and go for something completely new and different. Something you've never done together before. If you've already tried some of these things, skip those in favor of making new memories together and avoiding possible stigmas or negative emotions tied to things you've tried in the past.
1) Roller-skating or ice-skating. Both activities are physical activities that can be a lot of fun, at any age, provided you both come into it with open minds and expecting to have a good time together. More importantly, it gives you the opportunity to hold hands, to talk, and to rediscover that "sense of fun" that flows out of relationships when times are tough.
2) Rodeo. Depending on where you are in the world, rodeos offer a chance to cheer for the underdog, to laugh at the antics of the clowns, and the rush of adrenaline that almost always accompanies danger or risk. All from the relative safety of bleacher seats. Besides, what girl doesn't love ponies?
3) Hot air balloon ride. Few options available to you are more romantic than a hot air balloon ride. It's a great way to literally get above it all and see how small your problems really are from a bird's-eye view.
4) Sailing, canoeing, or white water rafting. Unless you live in a desert climate, the odds are good that there is some venue for one of these activities nearby. Water can be romantic and fun. The time you spend together doing this is time you're not likely to forget. It's a great opportunity to spend time together, talk, or simple enjoy the ride -- and the company.
5) Minor league sporting event. Skip the high price tag and huge crowds of the average major league sporting venue. Attending a minor league sporting event allows you both to cheer for the home team without breaking the bank. More importantly, the smaller crowds give you time to talk to each other a little before, during, and after the game. You get the benefit of watching favorite sports, such as hockey, baseball, football, and even soccer, without the downside of big league games.
Great dates don't just happen. They're made. It takes more than a great location though to make your first date - the second time around - truly stand out from the crowd. These venues are a great start, but it's up to you to really make this date sparkle and shine. Be on your best behavior. Treat your date well. Avoid danger zones or hot topics. And remember to have fun and remind your ex why he or she fell in love with you in the first place.
*The Magic of Making Up - See all the tips and strategies for winning your Ex back in this book. It helped me a lot to appreciate my marriage and my husband before my world shattered. See book here.
When you're getting back together with your ex there's a fine line that you must walk between doing things the old way and making a fresh start together. Sometimes it's best to part with the old completely and go for something completely new and different. Something you've never done together before. If you've already tried some of these things, skip those in favor of making new memories together and avoiding possible stigmas or negative emotions tied to things you've tried in the past.
1) Roller-skating or ice-skating. Both activities are physical activities that can be a lot of fun, at any age, provided you both come into it with open minds and expecting to have a good time together. More importantly, it gives you the opportunity to hold hands, to talk, and to rediscover that "sense of fun" that flows out of relationships when times are tough.
2) Rodeo. Depending on where you are in the world, rodeos offer a chance to cheer for the underdog, to laugh at the antics of the clowns, and the rush of adrenaline that almost always accompanies danger or risk. All from the relative safety of bleacher seats. Besides, what girl doesn't love ponies?
3) Hot air balloon ride. Few options available to you are more romantic than a hot air balloon ride. It's a great way to literally get above it all and see how small your problems really are from a bird's-eye view.
4) Sailing, canoeing, or white water rafting. Unless you live in a desert climate, the odds are good that there is some venue for one of these activities nearby. Water can be romantic and fun. The time you spend together doing this is time you're not likely to forget. It's a great opportunity to spend time together, talk, or simple enjoy the ride -- and the company.
5) Minor league sporting event. Skip the high price tag and huge crowds of the average major league sporting venue. Attending a minor league sporting event allows you both to cheer for the home team without breaking the bank. More importantly, the smaller crowds give you time to talk to each other a little before, during, and after the game. You get the benefit of watching favorite sports, such as hockey, baseball, football, and even soccer, without the downside of big league games.
Great dates don't just happen. They're made. It takes more than a great location though to make your first date - the second time around - truly stand out from the crowd. These venues are a great start, but it's up to you to really make this date sparkle and shine. Be on your best behavior. Treat your date well. Avoid danger zones or hot topics. And remember to have fun and remind your ex why he or she fell in love with you in the first place.
*The Magic of Making Up - See all the tips and strategies for winning your Ex back in this book. It helped me a lot to appreciate my marriage and my husband before my world shattered. See book here.
Are Your Friends Poison to Your Relationship?
Sometimes, friends can get in the way of your relationship in a really big and lethal way. It's hard to find balance between life, love, family, and friends. Everyone wants a little bit of your time.
You must work to find that perfect balance without inadvertently placing your relationship on the back burner. Keeping a safe line of demarcation between friends and your lover, can be a crucial secret for long-term success in your relationship and/or marriage. These small changes will make a big difference.
Stop Telling Your Best Friend Everything
While she is your best friend and you want to share the ups and downs of your life with her, the truth is that she doesn't love your man -- but she does love you. She's going to hold a grudge against him for the things you've told her long after you've kissed, made up, forgiven, and forgotten.
She's going to still be hopping mad at him for some slight that's old news and completely gone with the wind as far as you're concerned. She's going to remind you, constantly about how he isn't good enough for you, doesn't deserve you, and isn't treating you right. The problem is you're eventually going to begin believing her and start carrying grudges of your own.
Put Your Friend after Your Partner
It's true that your friend may have been there for you long before your partner. However, that doesn't change the fact that he needs to come before your friends if you're going to have a successful and long-lasting relationship.
Your relationship needs to be a priority in your life not some afterthought that gets the leftover attention after everyone and everything else has had its share. It's hard to make time for everyone on your list of people to see, but sometimes it's necessary.
Show Loyalty to Your Man
If you really want to make a favorable impression with your friend and the man you love, be loyal to him. Don't talk about the negatives around other people. Discuss any problems you have with him and present a wall of solidarity and support to the world. You'll never know how much of a difference it makes to him and how he feels about your relationship.
Incorporate these small changes into your relationship and see for yourself what a difference they make. You'll be surprised at how noticeable the changes in warmth, love, and affection are in the aftermath of a few small adjustments like these.
*The Magic of Making Up - See all the tips and strategies for winning your Ex back in this book. It helped me a lot to appreciate my marriage and my husband before my world shattered. See book here.
Sometimes, friends can get in the way of your relationship in a really big and lethal way. It's hard to find balance between life, love, family, and friends. Everyone wants a little bit of your time.
You must work to find that perfect balance without inadvertently placing your relationship on the back burner. Keeping a safe line of demarcation between friends and your lover, can be a crucial secret for long-term success in your relationship and/or marriage. These small changes will make a big difference.
Stop Telling Your Best Friend Everything
While she is your best friend and you want to share the ups and downs of your life with her, the truth is that she doesn't love your man -- but she does love you. She's going to hold a grudge against him for the things you've told her long after you've kissed, made up, forgiven, and forgotten.
She's going to still be hopping mad at him for some slight that's old news and completely gone with the wind as far as you're concerned. She's going to remind you, constantly about how he isn't good enough for you, doesn't deserve you, and isn't treating you right. The problem is you're eventually going to begin believing her and start carrying grudges of your own.
Put Your Friend after Your Partner
It's true that your friend may have been there for you long before your partner. However, that doesn't change the fact that he needs to come before your friends if you're going to have a successful and long-lasting relationship.
Your relationship needs to be a priority in your life not some afterthought that gets the leftover attention after everyone and everything else has had its share. It's hard to make time for everyone on your list of people to see, but sometimes it's necessary.
Show Loyalty to Your Man
If you really want to make a favorable impression with your friend and the man you love, be loyal to him. Don't talk about the negatives around other people. Discuss any problems you have with him and present a wall of solidarity and support to the world. You'll never know how much of a difference it makes to him and how he feels about your relationship.
Incorporate these small changes into your relationship and see for yourself what a difference they make. You'll be surprised at how noticeable the changes in warmth, love, and affection are in the aftermath of a few small adjustments like these.
*The Magic of Making Up - See all the tips and strategies for winning your Ex back in this book. It helped me a lot to appreciate my marriage and my husband before my world shattered. See book here.
Are You Being Too Agreeable for Love to Last?
Most people reading this will not think it's possible to have a partner that's too agreeable. Anyone who has been in a relationship knows that two different personalities will eventually get on each other's nerves. It's a fact of life, when two people occupy the same space, they will occasionally overstep boundaries, hurt feelings, or simply make one another madder than the hatter in Alice in Wonderland. The people you love most often drive you the craziest.
Arguing, in these situations is a normal response. On occasion, there may even be dish flinging, clothes throwing, knock down drag out kinds of disagreements (often followed by mind-blowing making-up sessions). It's normal to fight. It's even natural. What isn't natural, in relationships, is to always agree or never fight. Arguments are important tools in relationships. They do more than just let off a little steam. Here are a few reasons why you need to have the occasional argument in your relationship.
Arguments Clear the Air
They are important tools for letting your partner know how you really feel. IN relationships where couples never fight, it's often the first fight, the one that reveals all the pent up frustrations, hurt, and anger, that result in the ending of that relationship. Arguments let the other person know when how you feel, how you're hurting, and what to avoid in the future.
Arguments Show Engagement in the Relationship
They certainly bring an element of excitement into the relationship. They let your partner know you're there and hold nothing back. They show that you are passionately involved in the relationship and that you do care. They serve as a barometer for the level of affection in the relationship, in many cases, and are important tools for your partner to understand how vested in the relationship you really are.
Arguments Establish Important Issues for Both of You
We all know there are hot-button political and religious issues that should not be discussed in polite society. The same holds true when it comes to relationships. Those topics aren't always as clearly defined as religion and politics. In some relationships it's cooking, mechanical abilities (did anyone else notice how Jill on Home Improvement always quietly called in a professional once Tim finished fixing things?), family, friends, or even politics and religion.
Once you establish that these are hot topics for you by having that first heated argument, you know to back off and avoid discussing the issue. Sometimes, you must agree to disagree. But, if you never let your partner know how you really feel and how important the issue is for you, then he or she is likely to keep discussing it causing your blood to boil. Unless you let your partner know how you feel, your partner is going to assume you agree.
Don't let your first fight be the final blow for your relationship. Learn to speak up and let your partner know what you really think and feel. Most important of all, learn to fight fair so that the disagreements and arguments you do have are productive rather than destructive.
*The Magic of Making Up - See all the tips and strategies for winning your Ex back in this book. It helped me a lot to appreciate my marriage and my husband before my world shattered. See book here.
Most people reading this will not think it's possible to have a partner that's too agreeable. Anyone who has been in a relationship knows that two different personalities will eventually get on each other's nerves. It's a fact of life, when two people occupy the same space, they will occasionally overstep boundaries, hurt feelings, or simply make one another madder than the hatter in Alice in Wonderland. The people you love most often drive you the craziest.
Arguing, in these situations is a normal response. On occasion, there may even be dish flinging, clothes throwing, knock down drag out kinds of disagreements (often followed by mind-blowing making-up sessions). It's normal to fight. It's even natural. What isn't natural, in relationships, is to always agree or never fight. Arguments are important tools in relationships. They do more than just let off a little steam. Here are a few reasons why you need to have the occasional argument in your relationship.
Arguments Clear the Air
They are important tools for letting your partner know how you really feel. IN relationships where couples never fight, it's often the first fight, the one that reveals all the pent up frustrations, hurt, and anger, that result in the ending of that relationship. Arguments let the other person know when how you feel, how you're hurting, and what to avoid in the future.
Arguments Show Engagement in the Relationship
They certainly bring an element of excitement into the relationship. They let your partner know you're there and hold nothing back. They show that you are passionately involved in the relationship and that you do care. They serve as a barometer for the level of affection in the relationship, in many cases, and are important tools for your partner to understand how vested in the relationship you really are.
Arguments Establish Important Issues for Both of You
We all know there are hot-button political and religious issues that should not be discussed in polite society. The same holds true when it comes to relationships. Those topics aren't always as clearly defined as religion and politics. In some relationships it's cooking, mechanical abilities (did anyone else notice how Jill on Home Improvement always quietly called in a professional once Tim finished fixing things?), family, friends, or even politics and religion.
Once you establish that these are hot topics for you by having that first heated argument, you know to back off and avoid discussing the issue. Sometimes, you must agree to disagree. But, if you never let your partner know how you really feel and how important the issue is for you, then he or she is likely to keep discussing it causing your blood to boil. Unless you let your partner know how you feel, your partner is going to assume you agree.
Don't let your first fight be the final blow for your relationship. Learn to speak up and let your partner know what you really think and feel. Most important of all, learn to fight fair so that the disagreements and arguments you do have are productive rather than destructive.
*The Magic of Making Up - See all the tips and strategies for winning your Ex back in this book. It helped me a lot to appreciate my marriage and my husband before my world shattered. See book here.